Trisha, sorry about your experiences with the masses.

Christmas just sucks, don't it?  Well, that's what happens when we ain't got
no dang meta-narrative.  Too bad civility becomes an individual construct
and not something our Daddies and Mommas didn't whup into our backsides
years back.  That, of course, is making the supposition that our parents
punished us for discipline's (read learning) sake and not just because they
were mad and wanted a defenseless kid to pound on (seems to be the
experiential norm in this group).

As far as your "gentleman" being upset about his being diss'ed in front of
his nephew, hmmm, seems to me that respect is not an inalienable right.
Boy, Howdy!  Aren't we as a culture hung up on our rights, too?  Nevermind
the responsibilities that go along with it.

Let's face it, Westerners are soft.  We've got the time to be worried about
our "rights".  After all, not many of us are looking to see if we have
enough rice or millet for our families to make it through another day.
Let's see...which Pokemon character is supposed to take care of that one?