Stefan:

> Personally I deny that for L'Express but I admit that I have read only
> this article and my french isn't the best. On the other hand: one bad
> article with this sort of journalism suffices for me to judge L'Express.
> A serious newspaper would never have reported the story this way.

L'Express is a magazine which is not highly intellectual, but aimed
at the average French reader, a bit like "Time magazine". You
noticed that the journalist didn't understand anything about instincto
theory: but in EVERY newspaper, some articles contain inaccuracies
due to the fact that journalists are not specialists. And even in the
most serious newspapers, a 5-column article can be reduced to maybe
0.5 column of actual information.

One of my friends is a journalist in a financial magazine. He told me
that the aim of a journalist is not to inform the reader: most of the
time, he tells things that the reader knows already. A good journalist
is someone who can attract the reader's attention on a contentless
article. That may be cynical, but an interesting exercise is to
read an article, and then fetch the actual information that the
article provides...

> I think there will be lots of ambiguous situations if you are practising
> some kind of instinctive child rearing. A lot of situations would be
> plainly condemned by society because they don't understand them.
> What I would like to have, is some idea how to deal with these situa-
> tions. Can you give me a hint here? Frustrating your child by denying
> its needs will definitely not be the solution. So what do you suggest?

Well, my instinct tells me that I want to have a physical contact with
that beautiful woman I just saw in the street. But as I do not know
her, I cannot express her my desire, hence my frustration...

Not listening to desires, marrying a person instead of having multiple
partners, is also non-instinctive. But marriage does have other
advantages, such as stability, positive effects on children's
psychology, mutual trust/help/psychological support when one member
of the family needs support... Many rules in society are non-instinctive,
but the frustration is largely compensated by other advantages.

In the domain of love, and even worse when sex is involved, you won't
deny that there are some negative aspects, such as jealousy,
abuse of power, "playing" with someone else's desires; considering
others as objects... (non exhaustive list). With children, it can
be even worse, since they don't have enough maturity and are likely
to become victims of adults who have some power of persuasion
and disrespect of other human beings.

"Anti-pedophiliac" wishes,

Jean-Louis
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