Thanx Bilal for sharing.

This is a real way to help guide marriages and keep families together. Much of the
work for a healthy marriage could be done at the front end. That will sve a visit by
Shaytaa and put him/her out of business for good for Allah sakes. Two idiots ought
not get married to one another. Plus marriages ought never be arranged by anyone
other than the two to be wedded. The best thing friends and family can do is to
introduce the prospective grooms and facilitate their courting and then allow the two
birds to get hitched as and when they desire. A pre-nuptual should be considered
when either perceives trifle motivation for marriage.

On the other hand, and for those who only desire procreation, marriage is illadvised
for you. You can raise the children together and take care of each other without the
contract of marriage. This part is for those humans who have attained a more mature
station in life. And there is no hell or heaven. There is Amagideon though when we do
not take care of our planet. No other planet can sustain human life as well as Earth
ws able to and I'm not sure we will be welcome by dwellers of other planets.

Taking care of our planet includes recognizing each other as equal residents and
nurturing the weaker among us. It is that recognition/consideration matrix that
encompasses marital relations. When you are married, each individual still retains
their human rights. The marriage does not re-define that. The miscellaneous aspects
of a mar
riage such as how family income is earned, possessions and comforts yielded,
and the education, health, discipline, and religion of the family, are to be negotiated
with your fundamental humanrights in mind. It is preferable for the two spouses to come
from similar cultural and religious background but it is not a necessity. This commonality
only helps to expedite the negotiation process but does not substitute for it.

DO not marry someone ONLY because they look beautiful or handsome.
Do not marry someone  ONLY because they are financially well off.
Do not marry someone ONLY because you share the same cultural and religious heritage.
Do not marry somene ONLY because you share national origin with them.
Do not marry anyone ONLY because you admire something they have.

Marriage is to raise a family, with or without children. That means if you marry someone,
and through no fault of your own or your partner, you cannot bear children, you must not
terminate or annul the marriage. You can adopt orphans or for those of you whose religion
accomodates it, you may add another marital partner but ONLY upon mutual agreement.
SHort of this mutual agreement, adopting orphans is most advisable. It is highly advisable
should you yield mutual consent, to add a widower who as lost her husband to death,
accidental or suicidal. It is ill-advised to marry a widower CONVICTED of murdering their
spouse (male or female).

I have devised a whole code for marriage called Haruna's codes for marriage and I shall
shar
e them with anyone who desires, au gratis. I am not married yet myself. I desire to
but with deligence and sobriety. I have children and have adopted orphans without requiring
them transfer fatherhood to me. I think that is most aggregious.

Allez. Haruna. Thanx again Bilal for sharing the Hadiths. They help my further discernment
in matters of social accord. When you are able, and if there is any, could you share a Hadith
or two about harnessing the environment to yield valuable product. Much obliged. MQJGDT.
AL Mu'Umin. 

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Subject: Fwd: Daily Hadith - Marital Discord Pleases Shaytaan Most



Marital Discord Pleases Shaytaan Most

he Messenger of Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) said that
haytaan sits on his throne daily and dispatches his agents to work
mong human beings. One of the agents returns and says that I made a
ertain person commit a sin, another says I got so and so involved in
his offence. Upon listening to all this, Shaytaan says that you have
one nothing great. Eventually, one representative comes and says that
 saw a husband and wife extremely devoted to each other. I sowed the
eeds of enmity between them. On hearing this, Shaytaan becomes happy
nd embracing his agent says that you have indeed achieved something
reat. [Mishkat]
The love between a husband and wife is the biggest blow to Shaytaan.
rom this it is apparent how meritorious this love is. The
Islamic
rescription for success in married life is based on taqwa, fear,
ove, and consciousness of Allah. Taqwa -- the basis for all aspects
f Islamic life -- is especially relevant to the household. That is
hy Sura Nisa, which contains many commands regarding the rights and
esponsibilities of spouses, begins with repeated reminders of taqwa.
To fight Shaytaan, one needs Allah's help and it comes with taqwa,
.e. living with the awareness that Allah is watching us and will hold
s accountable for our actions. A direct and far reaching consequence
f this awareness is that a fight for rights is replaced by a concern
or responsibilities. One's responsibilities are other's rights. A
uslim husband and wife will be concerned with discharging their
uties toward each other. This provides for a home that is a model of
eace, love and harmony.
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