Phil,
Believe me, I understand.  Chris is always blaming someone else, or 
changing his story.  He can't even keep his stories straight, his 
lies get so tangled up.  As much as I love him, I still get a knot in 
the pit of my stomach when I"m around him.  Last Tuesday, when he let 
us know that he might be getting evicted, he hintted at the 
possibility of staying here for a bit and I can't believe how all the 
old feelings and fears came rushing back.  Greg picked up his stuff 
today, but he is going to stay with a friend.  We've told him that it 
would be better for him if he stayed in Bangor because they have a 
bus system, since Chris doesn't have a car, but in truth, it is 
better for us if he doesn't come home.
Kathy



At 01:32 PM 11/25/2006, you wrote:
>Kathy,
>
>I am learning I still have anger, for example, and where it is coming from.
>I am learning that there isn't anything that can be done but praying for
>Gretchen.  I am learning to stop trying to control the situation, since I
>can't any way, and because she is an adult, and just to let God do the work.
>I try and talk with her when I can because in this case, she has children
>but she rarely has time to talk.  She rarely has time for her children.  She
>got mad at us on Thanksgiving, something that is very common, and she stayed
>at her boyfriend's house even though her 11 year old son begged her to spend
>Thanksgiving with us as a family.  It is better that way for us because
>Gretchen has screwed up so many times at Easter, Thanksgiving, and
>Christmas, not to mention birthdays, that if I had my choice, I would prefer
>she stay away on those days.  She blamed her mom this time because Sandy
>tried getting her to come home from her boyfriends to assist in putting the
>dinner together.  It works well for Gretchen to get mad, blame somebody
>else, and that way she can do what she was planning on doing in the first
>place.
>
>Phil.