I surely have missed your support while my computer was being repaired and I 
had to be away from your fellowship.  My son has been giving me trouble as 
well.  I was so depressed feeling I must have done something terrebly wrong 
with regard to his bringing up.  I felt so isolated and alone during those 
times.  I just don't know how all will work out.  I surely hope it does for 
all our children.  God is the only one who can save them from the 
destruction they have created for themselves.
----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Kathy Du Bois" <[log in to unmask]>
To: <[log in to unmask]>
Sent: Saturday, November 25, 2006 5:42 PM
Subject: Re: chris


> Phil,
> Believe me, I understand.  Chris is always blaming someone else, or 
> changing his story.  He can't even keep his stories straight, his lies get 
> so tangled up.  As much as I love him, I still get a knot in the pit of my 
> stomach when I"m around him.  Last Tuesday, when he let us know that he 
> might be getting evicted, he hintted at the possibility of staying here 
> for a bit and I can't believe how all the old feelings and fears came 
> rushing back.  Greg picked up his stuff today, but he is going to stay 
> with a friend.  We've told him that it would be better for him if he 
> stayed in Bangor because they have a bus system, since Chris doesn't have 
> a car, but in truth, it is better for us if he doesn't come home.
> Kathy
>
>
>
> At 01:32 PM 11/25/2006, you wrote:
>>Kathy,
>>
>>I am learning I still have anger, for example, and where it is coming 
>>from.
>>I am learning that there isn't anything that can be done but praying for
>>Gretchen.  I am learning to stop trying to control the situation, since I
>>can't any way, and because she is an adult, and just to let God do the 
>>work.
>>I try and talk with her when I can because in this case, she has children
>>but she rarely has time to talk.  She rarely has time for her children. 
>>She
>>got mad at us on Thanksgiving, something that is very common, and she 
>>stayed
>>at her boyfriend's house even though her 11 year old son begged her to 
>>spend
>>Thanksgiving with us as a family.  It is better that way for us because
>>Gretchen has screwed up so many times at Easter, Thanksgiving, and
>>Christmas, not to mention birthdays, that if I had my choice, I would 
>>prefer
>>she stay away on those days.  She blamed her mom this time because Sandy
>>tried getting her to come home from her boyfriends to assist in putting 
>>the
>>dinner together.  It works well for Gretchen to get mad, blame somebody
>>else, and that way she can do what she was planning on doing in the first
>>place.
>>
>>Phil.