brad,
Great wisdom.
Vinny
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From: "MV" <[log in to unmask]>
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Sent: Friday, February 10, 2006 9:25 AM
Subject: Re: The latest from Chris


> Kathy,
>
> He is finding out his actions and decisions might be taken in stride by
> himself, but very serious by others around him. Personally? And this is my
> own view, before I'd take Chris back, I'd not even consider it until he 
> has
> decided  he just can't stand it there no more, not one more day, let him
> really feel why that is, the lifestyle, the value system, everything, and
> then when he  has really had it, fed up to the gills? Then I'd  suggest 
> him
> looking at his budget and how he can fund an apartment of his own or go in
> with some buddies on one, either that or learn to get along with Nikki and
> family.  From all I've been exposed to in the saga of Chris' ventures,
> which no doubt there are tons I don't know, I really can't see how Chris
> could possibly learn responsibility of independence and etc and to respect
> his family and provision, without having to have learned that for himself.
> This would be a great tool in getting him to the plate with  the bat ready
> to hit the pitches life has given him and the  game he chose to enter. 
> He's
> got what four months until he is out of high  school? Provided he
> graduates... I'm not certain of your confidence in that based off your
> report of school. The long and short of my point is, take him back now or
> even if he looks like he has made some changes, and based off your passed
> recounts of his behavior, he'll be 25 years old and still living at home
> hanging with the guys. Desperation creates innovation. How many times in
> life have we been faced with very tough situations and decisions, many of
> which had nothing to do with our own choosing, and it was working through
> that situation which made us stronger and confident in life? Oh Lord,
> *looking upwards* don't take that as a plea for hard times for any of us
> hahahaah. But it is true nonetheless. I am in the midst of such a lesson
> with my son, but he is learning and showing signs of responsibility. I
> bailed him out once financially but not this time and he is forced to deal
> with those he  deals with, the bank, credit card, etc. How can they learn
> to appreciate the help they've been given if not had to fend for 
> themselves
> first hand. That is my 1and a half cents worth.
>
> Brad
>