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----- Original Message -----
From: "Phil Scovell" <[log in to unmask]>
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Sent: Monday, February 14, 2005 11:16 PM
Subject: Having Children


> Chris,
>
> Having children doesn't make your marriage relationship any easier.  In
> fact, it makes it much more stressful.  Children, due to no fault of their
> own of course, can rip a marriage apart so fast, it is rediculous.
> Talking
> and planning and discussing, and most of all, praying about having
> children
> should take a very long time.  The longer you wait, the better prepared
> you
> are to have children.  Let me put it to you this way.  When you have
> children, the truth is, since they cannot care for themselves, and society
> expects parents to be the care givers of their own offspring, the kids
> come
> first.  This does not mean, of course, the marriage comes second.  It
> means
> what it says, that is, the kids come first.  This alone rips and tears at
> a
> marriage relationship like a wild animal at times.  You have years ahead
> of
> you and you and your wife need to get to know each other a million times
> better before you really want children.  Keep in mind, once you have them,
> you can't send them back and believe you me, you will have times you wish
> you could.  So, buddy, think and pray and put it off.  Like Rhonda said,
> children don't solve problems but they do create them.  You guys have lots
> of time to make babies but don't jump the gun on me here with this one,
> pal,
> or I'm coming down there to whup you good.  Let me ask you this question,
> Chris.  Have you already decided, since you've been married, that you can
> give up sex for periods of time and sometimes long periods of time?
> What's
> that have to do with it, you may ask.  I'm glad you asked because, pal of
> mine, it means that babies take a lot of motherly work.  Dad's sit around
> and complain about having to baby sit while mom's do everything else.
> This
> means that moms are dead dog tired by night time.  When little junior gets
> a
> little older, try making love in the middle of the day and see how many
> times you get interrupted.  A woman's hormones change when she is pregnant
> and after the baby is born.  sometimes sex isn't all that appealing due to
> the stress and the caring for the baby.  And wait till you change that
> dirty
> diaper the first time out and I am not referring to the wet ones either.
> The dad's part comes a little later when they are old enough to talk and
> play.  So, don't let this one accidently slip by you, Chris.
>
> Phil.
>
>
>
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