Phil,
Very wise words.  I wish that he would listen rather than go off in a huff!
Kathy


At 06:49 PM 2/15/2005, you wrote:
>Phil, This is tremendous wisdom.
>Listen to this Chris and read it again and again till it gets through to
>you.
>LOL.
>Vinny
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>From: "Phil Scovell" <[log in to unmask]>
>To: <[log in to unmask]>
>Sent: Monday, February 14, 2005 11:16 PM
>Subject: Having Children
>
>
> > Chris,
> >
> > Having children doesn't make your marriage relationship any easier.  In
> > fact, it makes it much more stressful.  Children, due to no fault of their
> > own of course, can rip a marriage apart so fast, it is rediculous.
>Talking
> > and planning and discussing, and most of all, praying about having
>children
> > should take a very long time.  The longer you wait, the better prepared
>you
> > are to have children.  Let me put it to you this way.  When you have
> > children, the truth is, since they cannot care for themselves, and society
> > expects parents to be the care givers of their own offspring, the kids
>come
> > first.  This does not mean, of course, the marriage comes second.  It
>means
> > what it says, that is, the kids come first.  This alone rips and tears at
>a
> > marriage relationship like a wild animal at times.  You have years ahead
>of
> > you and you and your wife need to get to know each other a million times
> > better before you really want children.  Keep in mind, once you have them,
> > you can't send them back and believe you me, you will have times you wish
> > you could.  So, buddy, think and pray and put it off.  Like Rhonda said,
> > children don't solve problems but they do create them.  You guys have lots
> > of time to make babies but don't jump the gun on me here with this one,
>pal,
> > or I'm coming down there to whup you good.  Let me ask you this question,
> > Chris.  Have you already decided, since you've been married, that you can
> > give up sex for periods of time and sometimes long periods of time?
>What's
> > that have to do with it, you may ask.  I'm glad you asked because, pal of
> > mine, it means that babies take a lot of motherly work.  Dad's sit around
> > and complain about having to baby sit while mom's do everything else.
>This
> > means that moms are dead dog tired by night time.  When little junior gets
>a
> > little older, try making love in the middle of the day and see how many
> > times you get interrupted.  A woman's hormones change when she is pregnant
> > and after the baby is born.  sometimes sex isn't all that appealing due to
> > the stress and the caring for the baby.  And wait till you change that
>dirty
> > diaper the first time out and I am not referring to the wet ones either.
> > The dad's part comes a little later when they are old enough to talk and
> > play.  So, don't let this one accidently slip by you, Chris.
> >
> > Phil.
> >
> >
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