Kathy,
I think you have summed it up more than anything any of us had to said.
Let's all belive God for the right solution to this.
Vinnyd
----- Original Message -----
From: "Kathy Du Bois" <[log in to unmask]>
To: <[log in to unmask]>
Sent: Wednesday, July 20, 2005 11:06 AM
Subject: Re: question, problem, and prayer request.


> Hey Jen,
>          First of all, I'm sorry that you are dealing with an inflexible
> pastor.  I don't see what difference it makes to him whether the cerimony
> is big or small, before or after the civil cerimony.  I suppose that he is
> standing on something for theological reasons, but I have no clue what
that
> would be.  It seems to me that you are left with three options:  switch
> pastors, move the wedding up,  or leave things as they are and trust God
> for a miracle.  As a child of God, the one option that you don't have, is
> to move in together.  If you begin your marriage by  compromising your
> principles  on something that is truly small in the grand scheme of
things,
> how can you be trusted for the bigger ones.  Believe me, the one thing
that
> I am learning about our heavenly Father is that he is extremely creative
in
> the solution department.  We often miss it because we get so stuck in
> thinking that the only solutions available to us are the ones that we can
> see and we shut the door on His creativity.  This is a test.  This is only
> a test.  The question is, will you trust Him and wait for His solution and
> timing or will you continue to see with earthly eyes only what is
> possible.  Good luck on your adventure.  He is faithful.  Your task is to
> remain patient and at peace!  GRIN!
> Kathy
>
>
>
> At 05:17 PM 7/18/2005, you wrote:
> >Hi all.  As most of you know, i am getting married in november.  I found
out
> >today from work that they want me to transfer in the beginning of august.
I
> >can't tell them i won't transfer then because it is the end of our fiscal
> >year august 31 and i could forfit my job.  Problem is though, that my
> >fiancee and I decided that to save money... if i had to move in september
or
> >october we would just live together until the wedding.  We both don't
really
> >like the idea but it's like we have no choice.  I don't know what to do.
> >I'm so confused... i don't know what is right and wrong.  Both my fiancee
> >and I are born-again Christians, we will in no way have sex before
marriage
> >so if we made/make that pledge to god is living together before marriage
a
> >sin?  Is it wrong?  And what do i do if it is?  I know of other christian
> >couples who have lived together before marriage.  I am just so scattered
> >right now.  Please pray for clarity for me?  And above all, pray Gods
will
> >be done.
> >I love you all.
> >Jenifer Barr.
> >When the trumpet blows... I'm outta here!
> >AIM: jenibear1998
> >msn
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