Kathy, I think you have summed it up more than anything any of us had to said. Let's all belive God for the right solution to this. Vinnyd ----- Original Message ----- From: "Kathy Du Bois" <[log in to unmask]> To: <[log in to unmask]> Sent: Wednesday, July 20, 2005 11:06 AM Subject: Re: question, problem, and prayer request. > Hey Jen, > First of all, I'm sorry that you are dealing with an inflexible > pastor. I don't see what difference it makes to him whether the cerimony > is big or small, before or after the civil cerimony. I suppose that he is > standing on something for theological reasons, but I have no clue what that > would be. It seems to me that you are left with three options: switch > pastors, move the wedding up, or leave things as they are and trust God > for a miracle. As a child of God, the one option that you don't have, is > to move in together. If you begin your marriage by compromising your > principles on something that is truly small in the grand scheme of things, > how can you be trusted for the bigger ones. Believe me, the one thing that > I am learning about our heavenly Father is that he is extremely creative in > the solution department. We often miss it because we get so stuck in > thinking that the only solutions available to us are the ones that we can > see and we shut the door on His creativity. This is a test. This is only > a test. The question is, will you trust Him and wait for His solution and > timing or will you continue to see with earthly eyes only what is > possible. Good luck on your adventure. He is faithful. Your task is to > remain patient and at peace! GRIN! > Kathy > > > > At 05:17 PM 7/18/2005, you wrote: > >Hi all. As most of you know, i am getting married in november. I found out > >today from work that they want me to transfer in the beginning of august. I > >can't tell them i won't transfer then because it is the end of our fiscal > >year august 31 and i could forfit my job. Problem is though, that my > >fiancee and I decided that to save money... if i had to move in september or > >october we would just live together until the wedding. We both don't really > >like the idea but it's like we have no choice. I don't know what to do. > >I'm so confused... i don't know what is right and wrong. Both my fiancee > >and I are born-again Christians, we will in no way have sex before marriage > >so if we made/make that pledge to god is living together before marriage a > >sin? Is it wrong? And what do i do if it is? I know of other christian > >couples who have lived together before marriage. I am just so scattered > >right now. Please pray for clarity for me? And above all, pray Gods will > >be done. > >I love you all. > >Jenifer Barr. > >When the trumpet blows... I'm outta here! > >AIM: jenibear1998 > >msn > >[log in to unmask] >