well when we talk she agrees, but, then she caves in.
the sara proble goes much further than the errands. it
goes into lots of other areas. i do sometimes leave
and "forget" that my cell phone has not been turned
on.

--- Magenta Raine <[log in to unmask]> wrote:

> Try talking to Judy again. All you can do is try.
> But, when she's teaching,
> she can't force you to do errands for Sarah. I
> understand about marital
> disagreements and spouses who have ears made of
> brick... sigh lol  Of
> course if you took your car for a drive nobody could
> call you up and you
> could do a meditation parked somewhere in the car.
> worth a try.  I have to
> say, I truly doubt BP medication as it seems to need
> more and more to work.
>
> Mag
>
> ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
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>
> "What is real but compassion, as we move from birth
> to death?"
> ~~Greg Brown~~
>
>
> > [Original Message]
> > From: ken barber <[log in to unmask]>
> > To: <[log in to unmask]>
> > Date: 12/16/2005 7:24:52 PM
> > Subject: Re: i have a blood pressure problem
> >
> > first ben is not nearly tthe problem that sara is.
> he
> > is more a nusence if taken by himself. sara is
> however
> > a major problem. i could do what you suggest if i
> did
> > not have an enabler as my wife. sara is a user and
> > judy will not let me put a halt to it as i would
> if i
> > had her support. it will only end when i move judy
> > away from sara. i have a year and a hafe until
> judy is
> > vested to the point than even if she moves away
> she'll
> > have a small pension from the georgia teachers
> > retirement plan. the plan is to leave this area
> then.
> > it just happens to coincide with bens transfering
> from
> > the local community college to a university.
> hopefully
> > the long term fight with the government will be
> > settled by then too. that too would relieve some
> > stress.
> >
> > --- Magenta Raine <[log in to unmask]> wrote:
> >
> > > My doctor, a gp, recomends meditation for
> dealing
> > > with pain too. So, it may
> > > help  kill (or help) the both things with one
> stone.
> > > Ken, you sound like
> > > one of these people who must learn to say no.
> Ben is
> > > a big boy, he is young
> > > and agile, let him come get whatever he needs;
> same
> > > with your daughter.
> > > Heck, as soon as I was in college my mom stopped
> > > schelping me around.
> > > Simply explain to your family that you have
> serious
> > > medical conditions and
> > > if they want you to live to be 67 or whatever,
> you
> > > have to take better care
> > > of yourself.
> > >
> > > Mag
> > >
> > > ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
> > > [log in to unmask]
> > >
> > > "What is real but compassion, as we move from
> birth
> > > to death?"
> > > ~~Greg Brown~~
> > >
> > >
> > > > [Original Message]
> > > > From: Kathleen Salkin <[log in to unmask]>
> > > > To: <[log in to unmask]>
> > > > Date: 12/16/2005 5:39:29 PM
> > > > Subject: Re: i have a blood pressure problem
> > > >
> > > > I've been told that pain can elevate your
> blood
> > > pressure, Ken, so
> > > > it'd make sense that chronic pain would
> increase
> > > your hypertension.
> > > >
> > > >
> > > > Kat
> > > >
> > > > On 16 Dec 2005, at 20:25, ken barber wrote:
> > > >
> > > > > i actually do try to do this when i am
> alone.
> > > > >
> > > > > someone ask if i had other symptoms. i have
> had
> > > quite
> > > > > a bit of pain for years so it would be easy
> to
> > > miss
> > > > > another one. actually pain for as long as
> mine
> > > has
> > > > > been can be a stress factor itself. and i'll
> be
> > > the
> > > > > first to admit that i have over the last
> couple
> > > years
> > > > > and the last one in particular have had
> multiple
> > > > > stress factors one on top of another. it has
> > > been from
> > > > > every angle. so that is the first suspect.
> there
> > > could
> > > > > be others.
> > >
> >
> >
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