well when we talk she agrees, but, then she caves in. the sara proble goes much further than the errands. it goes into lots of other areas. i do sometimes leave and "forget" that my cell phone has not been turned on. --- Magenta Raine <[log in to unmask]> wrote: > Try talking to Judy again. All you can do is try. > But, when she's teaching, > she can't force you to do errands for Sarah. I > understand about marital > disagreements and spouses who have ears made of > brick... sigh lol Of > course if you took your car for a drive nobody could > call you up and you > could do a meditation parked somewhere in the car. > worth a try. I have to > say, I truly doubt BP medication as it seems to need > more and more to work. > > Mag > > ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ > [log in to unmask] > > "What is real but compassion, as we move from birth > to death?" > ~~Greg Brown~~ > > > > [Original Message] > > From: ken barber <[log in to unmask]> > > To: <[log in to unmask]> > > Date: 12/16/2005 7:24:52 PM > > Subject: Re: i have a blood pressure problem > > > > first ben is not nearly tthe problem that sara is. > he > > is more a nusence if taken by himself. sara is > however > > a major problem. i could do what you suggest if i > did > > not have an enabler as my wife. sara is a user and > > judy will not let me put a halt to it as i would > if i > > had her support. it will only end when i move judy > > away from sara. i have a year and a hafe until > judy is > > vested to the point than even if she moves away > she'll > > have a small pension from the georgia teachers > > retirement plan. the plan is to leave this area > then. > > it just happens to coincide with bens transfering > from > > the local community college to a university. > hopefully > > the long term fight with the government will be > > settled by then too. that too would relieve some > > stress. > > > > --- Magenta Raine <[log in to unmask]> wrote: > > > > > My doctor, a gp, recomends meditation for > dealing > > > with pain too. So, it may > > > help kill (or help) the both things with one > stone. > > > Ken, you sound like > > > one of these people who must learn to say no. > Ben is > > > a big boy, he is young > > > and agile, let him come get whatever he needs; > same > > > with your daughter. > > > Heck, as soon as I was in college my mom stopped > > > schelping me around. > > > Simply explain to your family that you have > serious > > > medical conditions and > > > if they want you to live to be 67 or whatever, > you > > > have to take better care > > > of yourself. > > > > > > Mag > > > > > > ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ > > > [log in to unmask] > > > > > > "What is real but compassion, as we move from > birth > > > to death?" > > > ~~Greg Brown~~ > > > > > > > > > > [Original Message] > > > > From: Kathleen Salkin <[log in to unmask]> > > > > To: <[log in to unmask]> > > > > Date: 12/16/2005 5:39:29 PM > > > > Subject: Re: i have a blood pressure problem > > > > > > > > I've been told that pain can elevate your > blood > > > pressure, Ken, so > > > > it'd make sense that chronic pain would > increase > > > your hypertension. > > > > > > > > > > > > Kat > > > > > > > > On 16 Dec 2005, at 20:25, ken barber wrote: > > > > > > > > > i actually do try to do this when i am > alone. > > > > > > > > > > someone ask if i had other symptoms. i have > had > > > quite > > > > > a bit of pain for years so it would be easy > to > > > miss > > > > > another one. actually pain for as long as > mine > > > has > > > > > been can be a stress factor itself. and i'll > be > > > the > > > > > first to admit that i have over the last > couple > > > years > > > > > and the last one in particular have had > multiple > > > > > stress factors one on top of another. it has > > > been from > > > > > every angle. so that is the first suspect. > there > > > could > > > > > be others. > > > > > > > > > __________________________________________________ > > Do You Yahoo!? > > Tired of spam? Yahoo! Mail has the best spam > protection around > > http://mail.yahoo.com > __________________________________________________ Do You Yahoo!? Tired of spam? Yahoo! Mail has the best spam protection around http://mail.yahoo.com