It gets easier as the child gets older -  the child herself will know not
to eat anything Mom or Dad hasn't approved (that has to become a rule!) and
eventually friends and family will get used to the idea that she can't eat
casually.  What you have to guard against then is the casual cruelty of my
MIL who loves my son dearly -  but will fix a whole meal that he can't eat
and then give him a little plate of milk-free leftovers "because he
understands I have to cook for everybody, not just for him".  In my house,
nobody uses milk!  Nobody gets cheese!  Everybody is on the dairy-free diet
because I don't want any accidents!  It does get easier.  Hang in there.
She's worth it.

psam
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> From: Jill A Sobel <[log in to unmask]>
> To: [log in to unmask]
> Subject: Close calls and food allergies...
> Date: Wednesday, March 18, 1998 1:41 AM
>
> I guess I am still new to the food allergies in my 16 month old and
> wonder if parents ever stop feeling super guarded and paranoid about
> others giving the foods to your kids? I was out tonight with several
> relatives at a restuarant birthday party for my mom. Mikala was
> being passed around as usual from person to person when all of a sudden
> I saw my aunt giving coffee creamer to her. Fortunately I was trying
> to keep watch all night and caught the milk before it hit her lips, but
> I felt so upset afterwards. Perhaps I should start every dinner with
> grace saying "my daughter has food allergies, please do not feed her!"
>
> Does it ever get any easier? Does one every get used to it, so incidences
> such as this aren't so upsetting?
>
> Thanks for listening,
>
> Jill