Jennifer,

I'm sorry to hear you're having a hard time right now. But it's normal, really
it is.  Mothers who have to place their babies in daycare or with sitters or
with nannies, etc., go through the same thing you are.  Don't worry, she knows
who her mummy is.

I think your baby is feeling your stress; I don't have any helpful suggestions
but maybe one of the other mothers on the list will.

You're in my thoughts and prayers.

Kat

On Tue, 16 Jul 2002 10:11:51 EDT Chris Lahiff <[log in to unmask]> wrote:


bear w/ me..i need to vent a bit... i hope y'all dont mind:)
I'm an disabled mom to a beautiful 3mo old daughter and before I gave birth,
i had this expectation of what it was going to be like to be an SAH Disabled
parent.. All my life, I have adapted to whatever came my way, and nothing
made me feel like parenthood would be any different - until now..
For the first 10weeks of my daughters life, i tried to do everything for her/
my household by myself... it was very tiring and it was taking a toll on me
physically and emotionally.. So i got someone to come in and just help me out
a little bit so i didn't feel so overwhelmed, which was great... but here's
my problem... my baby likes her more than she likes me... i mean, i've told
this lady to  let me be in charge, and not to hold my child, but its hard for
her not to..
my daughter cries for her, i mean it's breaking my heart and i am crying even
as i type this... i feel so inadequate because i cant stand up and throw her
over her shoulder and jiggle her as she likes, this lady is more graceful w/
handling her.. This lady has even received my daughters first precious
giggle.. I feel like the only time I ever get to be close to her is when we
are playing or when we are nursing... I want to hold my daughter so badly and
i want her to be content with me... Can anyone give me suggestions?? If not,
it's ok, because i'm glad i got to get this off my chest