Hi Ken,
Glad you have a great Mom for him. I haven't remarried. I have no plans
to.
Trisha
> i would guess that all the states have a formula. i know alabama has an
> amount and it is figured on the % of total income of both pasrents what is
> actually paid. the one that makes more pays more of the expense. although
> nenjamin stayed with me, i got nothing from his mom even though i could
> have. i am happy to have raised my child. he don't even remember her.
> judy
> is mom.
>
>
> I wasn't commenting on that - the child support portion was what I was
> commenting on - and the states involvement in the amount - depending on
> the
> amount of the child support and the years he paid it and the amount of
> college donation - he could be paying the same amount both ways. Would he
> have paid more or less if it was voluntary? The state the amount - don't
> know how - Virginia has 600 limit and that is divided between the two
> incomes - by the percentage you put in. He will have paid - $36,000 in
> child support ( over 12 years) and he has no intention of helping with
> college or helping buy a car. In the mean time - I have put out - $65,000,
> and that doesn't count - the cost of her medical care - like insurance -
> which I carry and the co-pays and left over balances, nor the up and
> coming
> college amount of ?????? - nor the $15,000 for new car. I truly don't
> begudge him his money - okay so he has new Honda motorcycle and a new car
> and new digital camera nad computer and other stuff - I do begudge him the
> extra time I am away from Amber - so we can live. He spends no time with
> Amber, never calls her and until recently spazed out with the child
> support
> - the kid had no money and lost mom time. The kids want me home. When
> Jackie
> was living there - she waitress part-time and gave me money so I could
> stay
> home with them. The kids need us and our presence, and child support can
> help with that. We only have kids for such a short time, shouldn't at
> least
> be with them then?
>
> Trisha
>
>
> > i think kyle has already said he intends to continue with money for
> > college
> > voluntarily.
> >
> > -----Original Message-----
> > From: Trisha Cummings [mailto:[log in to unmask]]
> > Sent: Monday, June 03, 2002 10:53 AM
> > To: [log in to unmask]
> > Subject: Re: current events
> >
> >
> > I don't see what the difference is - one should voluntarily pay for one
> > kids
> > - you do for the ones that live with - infact if you consider how much
> the
> > cost per month - child support usually looks piddly next it - I get $250
> a
> > month Amber, and put out at least $700. I get nothing for Alex and put
> out
> > the same amount. I arrive at this by dividing the house, utilities and
> > food
> > by three - then adding individual costs. Imagine the mess I would be in
> if
> > I
> > didn't work 3 jobs. And this says nothing about the time spent running
> > them
> > around and vacations etc. Why does it matter that the state set limit?
> If
> > you checked out the number kids who never get child support like Alex,
> > perhaps you would understand the necessity for state set limits. The sad
> > truth is many people value money over people. Hate your ex-wife by all
> > means
> > but don't begrudge you child your support - finanacially or emotionally.
> > It
> > is not the child fault.
> >
> > Trisha
> >
> >
> > > Biggest raise I've ever had in my life, but college starts this fall
> > > <sigh>.
> > > Oh well, at least it's Dad's decision to open his wallst, and not the
> > > State
> > > doing it for him!
> > >
> > > -----Original Message-----
> > > From: BG Greer, PhD [mailto:[log in to unmask]]
> > > Sent: Monday, June 03, 2002 10:19 AM
> > > To: [log in to unmask]
> > > Subject: Re: current events
> > >
> > >
> > > In a message dated 6/3/02 8:13:33 AM, [log in to unmask] writes:
> > >
> > > >eh, congratsa kyle...
> > >
> > > Me too, Kyle. Now you, Laura and the kids will have more "cheese" to
> go
> > > around.
> > >
> > > Bobby
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