I wasn't commenting on that - the child support portion was what I was
commenting on - and the states involvement in the amount - depending on the
amount of the child support and the years he paid it and the amount of
college donation - he could be paying the same amount both ways. Would he
have paid more or less if it was voluntary? The state the amount - don't
know how - Virginia has 600 limit and that is divided between the two
incomes - by the percentage you put in. He will have paid - $36,000 in
child support ( over 12 years) and he has no intention of helping with
college or helping buy a car. In the mean time - I have put out - $65,000,
and that doesn't count - the cost of her medical care - like insurance -
which I carry and the co-pays and left over balances, nor the up and coming
college amount of ?????? - nor the $15,000 for new car. I truly don't
begudge him his money - okay so he has new Honda motorcycle and a new car
and new digital camera nad computer and other stuff - I do begudge him the
extra time I am away from Amber - so we can live. He spends no time with
Amber, never calls her and until recently spazed out with the child support
- the kid had no money and lost mom time. The kids want me home. When Jackie
was living there - she waitress part-time and gave me money so I could stay
home with them. The kids need us and our presence, and child support can
help with that. We only have kids for such a short time, shouldn't at least
be with them then?
Trisha
> i think kyle has already said he intends to continue with money for
> college
> voluntarily.
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: Trisha Cummings [mailto:[log in to unmask]]
> Sent: Monday, June 03, 2002 10:53 AM
> To: [log in to unmask]
> Subject: Re: current events
>
>
> I don't see what the difference is - one should voluntarily pay for one
> kids
> - you do for the ones that live with - infact if you consider how much the
> cost per month - child support usually looks piddly next it - I get $250 a
> month Amber, and put out at least $700. I get nothing for Alex and put out
> the same amount. I arrive at this by dividing the house, utilities and
> food
> by three - then adding individual costs. Imagine the mess I would be in if
> I
> didn't work 3 jobs. And this says nothing about the time spent running
> them
> around and vacations etc. Why does it matter that the state set limit? If
> you checked out the number kids who never get child support like Alex,
> perhaps you would understand the necessity for state set limits. The sad
> truth is many people value money over people. Hate your ex-wife by all
> means
> but don't begrudge you child your support - finanacially or emotionally.
> It
> is not the child fault.
>
> Trisha
>
>
> > Biggest raise I've ever had in my life, but college starts this fall
> > <sigh>.
> > Oh well, at least it's Dad's decision to open his wallst, and not the
> > State
> > doing it for him!
> >
> > -----Original Message-----
> > From: BG Greer, PhD [mailto:[log in to unmask]]
> > Sent: Monday, June 03, 2002 10:19 AM
> > To: [log in to unmask]
> > Subject: Re: current events
> >
> >
> > In a message dated 6/3/02 8:13:33 AM, [log in to unmask] writes:
> >
> > >eh, congratsa kyle...
> >
> > Me too, Kyle. Now you, Laura and the kids will have more "cheese" to go
> > around.
> >
> > Bobby
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