Actually, I have been on a lot of waiting lists for different stuff, and I
haven't ever stopped searching for other opportunities while being on that
one waiting list.  If a better opportunity comes up while I'm waiting for
that one thing, I can simply take my name off of that one list, businesses
don't care if you do that, it actually tells them that there are other
businesses out there who also offer that similar product or service.
However if your name comes up before other opportunities come up, I would
accept the appointment because chances are there are no other better
opportunities out there because nothing has came up while you were waiting.

Thanks,
Anthony
  ----- Original Message -----
  From: Salkin Kathleen
  To: [log in to unmask]
  Sent: Tuesday, January 29, 2002 12:43 PM
  Subject: Re: More Woes


  OK I think Anthony's point about getting on the waiting list and trying it
  for a few months is a better one than what I was saying (or trying to).

  I quote: " I don't know if I would like it permanently.  If I moved there
  permanently , there is no turning back , then I will be forced in to an
  institution."  So that's why I said Cornerstone might not be the best
  option.  However, if you do it as a trial basis and not a permanent one,
  you're not stuck there.  Unless they make you sign a contract to the
  contrary?  In that case, no, don't go there.  However, I cannot imagine
you
  would be so tied down you couldn't leave.

  I said, "OK Cornerstone may not be the best way to go, but surely there
are
  other options, maybe not in your town but in your state."

  You need to be talking to your case worker about all of this.  I certainly
  would hope she'd be doing her best to work with you and your preferences.
  If not ask for another case worker to be assigned to you.  A good case
  worker would be working with you, not against you, and she would be
helping
  you do research on this stuff.

  And as Mag and I have said, if your area or town is so poor in resources
for
  the disabled, maybe you should be considering moving elsewhere in the
state,
  nearer a larger city.

          Kat