Carol,

Sounds like a tough situation.  praying for wisdom in this.
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----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Carol Pearson" <[log in to unmask]>
To: <[log in to unmask]>
Sent: Saturday, August 18, 2007 8:55 AM
Subject: WHAT'S GOING ON WITH ME?


> Hi all,
>
> I'm just writing to share a little bit of what's happening here and why 
> the
> stress lines have been rising in the last few days.  I need you to pray 
> now
> because things are moving on and, frankly, I think this lady may have to 
> be
> out of my life sooner rather than later!
>
> I am privileged to have some help with daily tasks that I cannot do for
> myself and the hours that I am given (in terms of money to pay for such
> help) are generous.  In fact, for the first time in my life, I can 
> sometimes
> get out and really enjoy myself and not just stick to the urgent jobs that
> must be done the next time I get some sighted help!  Anyway, I employed 
> two
> ladies for a few hours each week to help me with this earlier on this 
> year.
> For one, who has three children, it has been a joy and no problem to keep
> her children well cared for while she is with me on a regular basis.  For
> the other, who has a daughter of seven, it has been a real problem, not 
> just
> for me but for both of us and is becoming a bit of a nightmare for me.
> Basically, this particular lady is not only needing to look after her
> daughter but is wanting all that she wants in life as well, and that
> includes squash games and trips to the gym which must fit my schedule.
> Well, I worked really hard with her in the months before the Summer break,
> as I had discovered that she was taking time out to care for her daughter
> and not finding an alternative.  I made a slight alteration to the 
> contract
> she had to sign, agreeing some flexibility in the Summer, but she has 
> taken
> me rather for granted and not given anywhere near the time she should and
> she has persistently requested a start or end time to fit around her life.
> Well, the other person who works for me is sick following surgery and I'm
> left with no help.  Having worked through the hours that this lady has 
> taken
> from me, I have firmly concluded that this has to stop.  She does have a
> father for the young girl and they live together, supposedly, as a happy
> family;  and she has his sister with whom she apparently gets on extremely
> well.  In addition there's an older son by Dad's first marriage and he 
> comes
> over sometimes to be with them and look after the little girl when it 
> suits
> them.  OK, so she is not totally without help, though perhaps she needs
> more.  The problem is that she's not taking up that help, or possibly not
> even asking for it, because she wants to be home when she wants to be home
> with her daughter and to still keep a job, on her terms.
>
> Over the past few days I have made alteration to her contract to make it
> absolutely clear what she can and cannot do if she wishes to continue to 
> be
> employed by me.  I have endeavoured to be fair and caring over the past 
> many
> months and have given, as I say, in excess of 15 hours, plus a week's paid
> holiday whilst I was away and she has taken two weeks' off.  Now, when you
> only employ a couple of people, that gets difficult and totally 
> unworkable,
> especially as the job is to meet my needs (much more than my wants) and
> includes many things that I cannot manage myself.  Anyway, I had to call 
> her
> today because the other person will not be able to come in this week and 
> she
> said, "Well, I'll try to make one day," when I am supposed to have hours 
> on
> four different days by the two ladies and they know I hope they will 
> cover,
> at least to some extent, for one another's sickness and holiday.  I have
> indicated that I need some firm answer from her in the next day or so and
> also that I would like her to take a look at the new contract over the 
> next
> few days and sign this before she goes off on holiday.  (She's away for
> about eleven days).  I think it is very likely that she will not want to
> sign the contract and/or that it could get a bit difficult all round.  (I
> learned through a round about route after employing her and not receiving 
> a
> reference that she took her only other employer to Court some years ago 
> and
> lost the case because she clearly wanted to work her own hours and he 
> needed
> full-time employment.  It seems she is still acting in the same manner.)
>
> Anyway, I've probably given you ample to know what's going on and I just 
> ask
> for wisdom and that God will continue to help me in all my dealings with
> her.
>
> --
> Carol
>
> -- Lies imprison; truth frees. The Son frees indeed as the light of His
> truth shines in the darkness of our lies. Jesus knows the geography of our
> souls,
> the origin of our lies, the whole path to deliverance and freedom. --
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