Kathy,
    I'm glad nothing major happened while he was staying there.  You have to
stay firm with people like him.  I will continue praying for him and you all
as you do what you have to do to deal with this situation.  It is so sad to
see a young person living that way when you know they could do better.

Amy
----- Original Message -----
From: "Kathy Du Bois" <[log in to unmask]>
To: <[log in to unmask]>
Sent: Thursday, August 03, 2006 10:50 AM
Subject: my interesting evening


> Well, I certainly had an interesting evening yesterday.  We still
> don't have our car back, but Greg was able to get a ride from one of
> our church members and he went to the courthouse to see what he could
> find out about Chris.  Imagine the surprise when it was learned that
> he had been released on personal recognizance  again.  This made no
> sense because he has no money and drug dealing is a felony!
> Well, Greg called to let me know and, about an hour later, Chris
> called me  himself.  He wanted to know if he could come by to pick up
> a few things.  I told him that he would have to call back after I had
> had a chance to talk it over with Greg.  We decided to let him
> come.  He walked from Bangor, about seven miles because we couldn't
> have given him a ride anyway.  He ended up walking through a down
> pour.  When he arrived, I had him take a shower first because he
> stank.  Then, Greg and I did a lot of praying about how to handle
> things. He ended up having to empty his pockets because everything
> was soaking wet and we actually got to see the court summons.  Guess
> what, the only reason that he was picked up was because he didn't
> show up in court to face the charges about stealing his x roommate's
> computer.  It had nothing to do with drugs.  Chris claims that the
> scales and baggies belonged to Nicki's brother's friend.  I have no
> idea why, after the police saw everything in Nicki's house, that
> Nicki's parents claimed belong to Chris, that he wasn't charged with
> anything to do with drugs.    WE have no clue what is going on.
> Chris stayed the night.  We let him sleep on the couch, but we
> didn't let him use the computer.  He did use the phone, I tapped the
> call and, sure enough, he called Nicki. I was ready to call the
> police, if he was working out something illegal.    They are still
> thick, so that's another lie.  Evidently, Nicki's parents have put
> out a one year restraining order against Chris so that wil make it a
> bit harder for the two to meet, but it was quite obvious, from the
> conversation, that it isn't over between them, despite what Chris led
> us to believe.
> Chris swears that    he hasn't been dealing drugs, but we told him
> that we just don't know what the truth is.  We explained that he was
> allowed to stay for the night because he is our son, not because he
> has repented.  We talked a lot, in fact, about the prodigal son and
> how his attitude was that of repentance  and wanting to
> change.  chris admitted that, despite his homelessness, he's having
> too much fun partying to change so we just told him flat out, that's
> why you can't move back home.  He asked if I would still hold my
> ground if he were to apply for general assistance again.  The general
> asistance office has a policy of calling the parents of adults
> between the ages of 18--25 to see if there is anything the family can
> do to help financially.  When they called last time, I told them that
> Chris was more than welcome to move back home, if he were willing to
> follow the rules.  I told Chris that I'd still say the same again, so
> he probably won't bother applying.
> Now, Chris is oficially homeless.  Even the homeless shelter won't
> take him in.  He left this morning.  We gave him an old bike that we
> may never see again, but we don't care about it, so that's okay.  He
> was a bit miffed that we didn't give him a better one, but we told
> him that he had already lost two bikes, not to mention  everything
> else that he left with nine months ago.  We stayed pretty firm and he
> respected it.
> Part of me is so angry that I could scream.  Part of me wants to
> grab him and just shake him and part of me wants to be nice.  I will
> say this, I"m glad that he left without incident. Last night, I must
> have sat up for about a half hour, making sure that he was sleeping
> before I laid down myself.   I'm so grateful to God that this part of
> my life is over and I don't want to go back to it.
> Kathy
>
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