Kathy, I'm glad nothing major happened while he was staying there. You have to stay firm with people like him. I will continue praying for him and you all as you do what you have to do to deal with this situation. It is so sad to see a young person living that way when you know they could do better. Amy ----- Original Message ----- From: "Kathy Du Bois" <[log in to unmask]> To: <[log in to unmask]> Sent: Thursday, August 03, 2006 10:50 AM Subject: my interesting evening > Well, I certainly had an interesting evening yesterday. We still > don't have our car back, but Greg was able to get a ride from one of > our church members and he went to the courthouse to see what he could > find out about Chris. Imagine the surprise when it was learned that > he had been released on personal recognizance again. This made no > sense because he has no money and drug dealing is a felony! > Well, Greg called to let me know and, about an hour later, Chris > called me himself. He wanted to know if he could come by to pick up > a few things. I told him that he would have to call back after I had > had a chance to talk it over with Greg. We decided to let him > come. He walked from Bangor, about seven miles because we couldn't > have given him a ride anyway. He ended up walking through a down > pour. When he arrived, I had him take a shower first because he > stank. Then, Greg and I did a lot of praying about how to handle > things. He ended up having to empty his pockets because everything > was soaking wet and we actually got to see the court summons. Guess > what, the only reason that he was picked up was because he didn't > show up in court to face the charges about stealing his x roommate's > computer. It had nothing to do with drugs. Chris claims that the > scales and baggies belonged to Nicki's brother's friend. I have no > idea why, after the police saw everything in Nicki's house, that > Nicki's parents claimed belong to Chris, that he wasn't charged with > anything to do with drugs. WE have no clue what is going on. > Chris stayed the night. We let him sleep on the couch, but we > didn't let him use the computer. He did use the phone, I tapped the > call and, sure enough, he called Nicki. I was ready to call the > police, if he was working out something illegal. They are still > thick, so that's another lie. Evidently, Nicki's parents have put > out a one year restraining order against Chris so that wil make it a > bit harder for the two to meet, but it was quite obvious, from the > conversation, that it isn't over between them, despite what Chris led > us to believe. > Chris swears that he hasn't been dealing drugs, but we told him > that we just don't know what the truth is. We explained that he was > allowed to stay for the night because he is our son, not because he > has repented. We talked a lot, in fact, about the prodigal son and > how his attitude was that of repentance and wanting to > change. chris admitted that, despite his homelessness, he's having > too much fun partying to change so we just told him flat out, that's > why you can't move back home. He asked if I would still hold my > ground if he were to apply for general assistance again. The general > asistance office has a policy of calling the parents of adults > between the ages of 18--25 to see if there is anything the family can > do to help financially. When they called last time, I told them that > Chris was more than welcome to move back home, if he were willing to > follow the rules. I told Chris that I'd still say the same again, so > he probably won't bother applying. > Now, Chris is oficially homeless. Even the homeless shelter won't > take him in. He left this morning. We gave him an old bike that we > may never see again, but we don't care about it, so that's okay. He > was a bit miffed that we didn't give him a better one, but we told > him that he had already lost two bikes, not to mention everything > else that he left with nine months ago. We stayed pretty firm and he > respected it. > Part of me is so angry that I could scream. Part of me wants to > grab him and just shake him and part of me wants to be nice. I will > say this, I"m glad that he left without incident. Last night, I must > have sat up for about a half hour, making sure that he was sleeping > before I laid down myself. I'm so grateful to God that this part of > my life is over and I don't want to go back to it. > Kathy > > > -- > No virus found in this incoming message. > Checked by AVG Free Edition. > Version: 7.1.394 / Virus Database: 268.10.5/405 - Release Date: 8/1/06 > >