Phil,
I think that it is wise not to get her up.  Obviously, you care more 
than she does about the situation that she has gotten herself 
into.  She has to get to a place where she herself cares more or she 
probably won't change because the indifference is more 
comfortable.  I know, it hurts as a parent to watch your child throw 
his or her life away, but the one thing that you can't do is live it 
for them.  Still praying.
Kathy


At 01:31 PM 5/13/2006, you wrote:
>Gretchen has been assigned to take rehab classes two and three times each
>week plus drug testing twice a week.  Her case officer has assigned her to
>so many classes, Gretchen will have only 80 dollars a month left out of her
>paychecks.  She is now giving her paycheck to her youngest brother, for whom
>she works, to keep from spending her money.  She had to be at a Saturday
>morning drug rehab class this morning.  I went down and got her up, or
>called her name until she finally answered me, at 6:15 this morning.  I went
>back to bed and awakened at almost 7:30 and realized I had not heard her car
>pulling out.  I went down and called her name again until she answered and
>told her what time it was.  She went back to sleep and never went to the
>class.  If she fails to attend these classes, she will be sent back to a
>judge who will either put her on probation for several years and who likely
>will still order the rehab classes to be taken, or he will simply send her
>to prison for 2 to 5 years.  Gretchen has also admitted now that she has
>been selling drugs in order to pay for her own.  Yesterday, she said she had
>been clean since last Tuesday, that is, four days.  I won't be getting her
>up any more either.  She is on her own.
>
>Phil.
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