Paul,

I've found that some people don't like to just do things without being
asked. They don't like to intrude. I would call him the next time you need
a ride to work.

I've found that some times I've had people say to me this: "Oh I should
have given you a ride." or this: "Oh, I should have taken you to the store
with me." Then I feel like saying, "Well, why didn't you? <grin> but I
never say that.

I know how you feel about imposing, I hate to impose on anyone, yet some
times I get really frustrated when I can't get somewhere because I don't
have a ride. It's not like I can just get in the car and drive some where.
<grin>

I've been told that if I want help, I should ask for it, but I really hate to.

Last night, Vernon made Marilynn an offer. She wants him to build her a
cabinet for her, so VErnon and I talked about it yesterday before going to
her house last night. We agreed that if she helps him with his inventory,
he would build her cabinet for just the retale price of the wood and other
parts. He will not charge her any labor, so she could help him with this
project and me, with any project I might need help with.

He needs to get rid of the Lawn and Garden inventory of parts he has in
stock, probably about $25,000 or $30,000 worth of parts. He wants to sell
these parts to anyone wishing to buy them at dealer cost.

Today Marilynn came over after lunch and she got to work with SCANACAN
Professional. <grin> lol. She loved it. She also helpped me make beds. We
had fun doing that. I was feeling down today, and she asked me if I was
feeling left out, I told her "Heavens no." We three get along great
together, and we have fun.

She will be here tomorrow morning, and she'll bring the pants she took to
hem for me, if she has time to get them done. I will pay her for that
little job, because that's the agreement we have. If these pants are more
difficult than the others, and if she wants more money for hemming them,
that's fine with me. I'll pay her what she asks for, within reason. <grin>
lol. She won't be out of line, though. <grin>

I'm praying for everyone in this kind of situation, needing help now and
then. Praying for you, Loving Brother, Paul.

Many lovings and squeezings.

Love and Blessings,
Pat Ferguson
At 05:36 PM 1/9/04 -0500, you wrote:
>Okay, asking your opinion on a situation that happened today.  We had cruddy
>weather today, rain, sleet, it's even supposed to snow tonight.  And knowing
>I don't like to drive in that stuff my buddy has offered in the past to
>drive me in to work and has done it once or twice before.  Last time he said
>to call next time I needed a ride in.   So today when it was so crummy I
>thought he would be coming to pick me up and didn't call. (It's not a big
>deal because I had stuff I could work on at home and could actually do
>better at home anyway.)  He wrote from work and asked why I hadn't called
>and I said that I didn't want to impose. Even though he offered, he has a
>wife and daughter and the situation could have changed so I thought if he
>could pick me up, he would, and if not, he wouldn't.  Besides, he's my
>friend but he's also a full Colonel (one-step below a General).  He wrote
>back and said that was B S.  So what do you think?  Should I call him next
>time, even though he knows where I live and already made the offer and knows
>I need a ride?  Or should he just know I need the ride and show up if he
>can?
>
>Clueless in Columbia