I think Bobby meant that it's difficult to accept help in that we "despise"
being thought of as "needy" in physical ways. In some ways, I think there's
greater emotional lability for someone who has "passed" for years and now
must not only come to terms with needing help, but also knowing that others
see you as needing help. Ours is, and has been, a culture that looks for
physical norms--as do most cultures. In fact, having some experience in
developing countries, ours is probably one of the more accepting of the
disabled. It's no big news flash that other cultures (as opposed to
official nation-states--big diff) ostracize their disabled--or worse. Our
own standards are a reflection, I think, of our mass-media and our cultural
infatuation with media super-stars.
Kyle
(Does anyone here really give a rat's arse about "Bennifer"? Sadly, many
do.)
-----Original Message-----
From: Kendall D. Corbett [mailto:[log in to unmask]]
Sent: Monday, September 15, 2003 4:15 PM
To: [log in to unmask]
Subject: Re: Getting used to needing more help
I don't need a PCA (yet), but probably will with a few things at some
point. Last time I fell, I couldn't get off the garage floor and back
into my chair on my own. Janet was home, though, so even though she and
I were not able to get me up, she called a neighbor, and got my lard-a**
off the ground. It's definitely food for thought. I figure that
MiCASSA, or something similar will have passed by the time I need
regular assistance. I'm hoping that will be 10 - 15 years. One
question - "seeking help goes against everything we (despise ?)".
Kendall
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-----Original Message-----
From: BG Greer, PhD [mailto:[log in to unmask]]
Sent: Monday, September 15, 2003 8:02 AM
To: [log in to unmask]
Subject: Re: Getting used to needing more help
Jeremy,
As Kyle already said, seeking help goes against everything we
despise.
However, there will come a time when it is needed. So, while you can,
arrange
a help schedule that will be adaptable to your changing needs.
Bobby
> How have other people dealt with needing personal
> >care?
>
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