You certainly don't find it in many males of our generation either.  It's us
females who are supposed to take care of the males, not the males, us.  Only
problem is, I've found that men with disabilities are looking for women to
take care of them, and they don't usually want to marry women with
disabilities themselves.    I wonder what men are looking for -  Suzy
Homemaker or Wonder Woman!

But you know, as Mag and I have said, we're perfectly happy on our own.  I
know I am. *grin*

Kat
----- Original Message -----
From: "BG Greer, PhD" <[log in to unmask]>
Newsgroups: bit.listserv.c-palsy
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Sent: Monday, October 07, 2002 10:46 AM
Subject: Re: marriage


> In one of the older studies of marriage between AB and PWD, they found
that
> the AB spouse winds up more physical and emotional demands placed on them.
In
> the "me" culture Kyle mentioned, it follows that the AB spouse might be
> expected to "book it" after awhile. I know Joyce works hard in our
marriage.
> You might not find that in the younger generation.
>
> Bobby
>
> >Any PWD "searching" for a mate can seriously put their emotional life in
> >stormy seas for the long term if they are not absolutely certain that
their
> >potential spouse is not completely commited to the vow "in sickness and
> >health."  Ours is the "me" culture, and once the years tick away and the
> >ABspouse realizes that their disabled mate is not capable of "keeping
their
> >end of the bargain", the love boat could easily be wrecked on the reefs
> >of unmet expectations.
> -Kyle