so right you are. the stupid questions are not normally from innocent little folk. i am not nearly as genteel with adults, but, i do try to percieve their intentions and if i know there are good intentions, even , even a dumb question does not get quite as rough an answer. > -----Original Message----- > From: Trisha Cummings [SMTP:[log in to unmask]] > Sent: Monday, December 06, 1999 9:27 AM > To: [log in to unmask] > Subject: Re: Disabled comics > > Hi Ken, > > > > for little children i say "when i was a baby, i got my head hurt" they > are > > not looking for a medicle disertation. and natrual curiosity is not > > rudeness. the woman who wrote was the one being rude in my point of > view. > > sorry if that person is reading the post, but, that is my opinion. > > Unless you are a perfect cookie cutter person - anything other than > run > of the mill norm gets attention - people always want to know why your not > mundane like them. I think there are two fields of questions here - ones > which allow one to educate people and hopefully make disability or other > than "cookie cutter perfect" a normal way to be. We answer these to the > level of the person's understanding. When Amber was little and people ask > about her bright blue AFO - ( children usually) - I would say - Amber > needs > it to help her walk the way I need my glasses to help me see. I have > pointed > out repeatedly there are no perfect people - some "imperfections" are > simply > more visible than other. Completely stupid questions about ridiculous > things > deserve answer commensurate with their stupidity. I field endless comments > on my height - being a whopping 4'10 inches and pale blonde - these two > items just reach up and grab people attention and requires endless stupid > comments - > > Gee you're short - My feet touch feet touch the floor > just like yours. > Isn't it hard being that short ? I have no idea I have never been > taller. > Why are you so short? I quit growing at 4'10". DUHHHHH!! > > Is it real ( my hair) No, I bought at Astro-Fur, a > division of Astro-Turf > > And then when people find out I am an import - yet have no obvious German > accent - they demand to why I don't have accent. You can not win!! There > is > nothing wrong with any of us - other than we don't fit someones idea of > the > way its suppose to - so lets expand their idea of how its suppose to be. > And > lets remember we too come with our own preconceived notions and ask some > stupid questions and make some stupid comments, too. > > Brightest Blessings > Trisha