it really depends on how well you know your children, as to how you handle things. the boy would react differently to the same situation, i think. i'll know when he reaches that age. > -----Original Message----- > From: Bobby Greer [SMTP:[log in to unmask]] > Sent: Wednesday, July 14, 1999 12:15 PM > To: [log in to unmask] > Subject: Re: i'm back > > Ken, > > I must say we were not as harsh on my daughter re: work. We let > her > do everything your daughter did except the boyfriend. She didn't seem to > be > able to get one. One day she came to workwith me on campus and saw all > these nice looking boys whom she did meet in her "job" as a part time baby > sitter. She had not even taken a college prep curriculum in high school. > She asked me if I thought she might go to college. I set her up with some > friends in admissions > and she was admitted, found a eligible professor, no less, and now is what > she always aspired to, a mommy and wife. They live in Austin TX now and he > teaches criminology at St Edwards U. > > Bobby > > >yep, the motivation factor was my idea. i know about the vanity factor > and > >knew she would never want to go back to just soap and water, and nothing > >except a comb and brush for the hair. other wise she did not have much > fire > >for getting out there and putting in any applications. she was content to > >sleep in evey day, get up and go out to visit her boyfriend at his break > >where he works, and watch tv. she would do some housework if she was > >specifically requested and anything she desired magically appearing > because > >she wrote it on our families shopping list. a good life if you can get > it. > > > > here in the atlanta area jobs are not that hard to get. i had told her > >that she'd have to work at something while she built her massage therapy > >clientell, but, just had to give her a little push. > > > >> -----Original Message----- > >> From: Bobby Greer [SMTP:[log in to unmask]] > >> Sent: Wednesday, July 14, 1999 10:24 AM > >> To: [log in to unmask] > >> Subject: Re: i'm back > >> > >> Ken, > >> > >> welcome back!! As for your daughter, there is nothing like > >> motivation to hone those job seeking skills. > >> > >> > >> > >> Bobby > >> > >> > >> >just as i said i am back. although it took me more than a week to > catch > >> up > >> >on what was on my desk and actually get time to reactivate the list to > >> mail > >> >again. having to come back is enough to discourage one from taking > >> vacation > >> >in the first place. > >> > i am still getting stiff from all the driving/riding. > >> > our first news is that my daughter got a job. hooray. took place 2 > >> days > >> >after we told her that on the day in august that mom went back to work > >> (she > >> >is in the schools) that we would cease to purchase unnecessary items > for > >> >her. (ie: the little things like face powder, creams, and other > makeup; > >> new > >> >clothes, she can wear what she has, etc.) amazingly she got a job in > two > >> >days. > >> > well it is good to be back. what is happening with you guys/gals?