From: bailo jallow <[log in to unmask]>
Subject: Re: Daily Hadith - Marital Discord Pleases Shaytaan Most
To: [log in to unmask]
Date: Wednesday, 24 June, 2009, 1:50 AM

Haruna, I had wanted to tell you for a while that I do not like my nickname Evian. So here is a deal for you: Call me Bilal instead after all I used to serve as a bilal and moreover it is closer to my name Bailo than Evian. Avian and Evian could be confused by some. You may also henceforth call Edi, Eid instead. The guy is simply great. Haruiner, Brillaint! Bilal Bailo --- On Mon, 22/6/09, Haruna Darbo <[log in to unmask]> wrote: From: Haruna Darbo <[log in to unmask]> Subject: Re: Daily Hadith - Marital Discord Pleases Shaytaan Most To: [log in to unmask] Date: Monday, 22 June, 2009, 10: 41 PM [-----Original Message----- From: Edie Sidibeh [log in to unmask] To: [log in to unmask] Sent: Sun, Jun 21, 2009 12:47 pm Subject: Re: Daily Hadith - Marital Discord Pleases Shaytaan Most Haruiner,] Bilal. This must be a typo Bilal. It does look like you did put some deliberate and concerted effort into it though. If it is not a typo, I must say I was a bit shocked at why you would consider me a destroyer. That may be a bit too strong if only for allegory. [I was very busy these passed days, adding fuel to fire; I Love to dislike you these days as well.] Bilal. Bilal, you were angry with me for something??? I never knew. What happened??? WHat did I do or NOT do to inure such disdain so? I think it is extreme to call me names without informing me why I have upset you. At least give me an opportunity to make good. I really thought our comraderie and new-found friendship is worth considerations and patience with one another. I am not very pleased right now. Was it because I honour you by calling you Bilal? I thought the name Bilal is honourable, reserved for like character of Saahebs. [My anger and dislikes became valueless when love took the centre stage and disallow t he hate to develop between people who have a collective motivation towards the b etterment of humanity in general; (aiwali kano sembo warata baakelee Haruiner).]  Bilal. I don't understand my Bilal. Are you implying that but for my "apparent" motivation for the betterment of humanity yielded me your forgiveness? And that were I not to be of any value in the betterment of humanity, you would have remained angry with me???? That is not much consolation for me because it is my duty to attenuate humanity's fortunes and that must not excuse my erstwhile delinquencies. What exactly angered you Bilal?? [Enough with that, However I red you post bellow today and I think you should start your own (dara), teaching people about this your philosophy and which, to my liking, is also an answer to many question others are asking regarding relationship in general Bravo Mr. ruiner.] Bilal. I am pleased Bilal that you find value in the brief marital counsel I offered as rejoinder to your more valuable sharing of the Hadith on the same topic. I was merely displeased with Shaytaan. However, you continue to call me Ruiner. DO you actually believe me to be a ruiner, or is it that you could not come up with a mre appropriate nickname for your friend on short order??? You have yielded me enormous anxiety Bilal. WHy exactly do you refer to me as RUiner? [I gave you the name Haruiner because you ruin people's name.] Bilal. Hmmm! Do you consider aff ectionately calling you Bilal tantamounts to ruining your good name Jah??? I am confide nt you did not intend to prosecute me for "apparent aversio" of other. Or do you? [Have a nice African's fathers day. Edie] Bilal. You just ruined my Father's week. Please let me know why you are angry with me. You know when you graced us you had invited company in your journey toward Islam. I was kind enough to enjoin you in what I knew would be a long and sober journey. If we begin by getting angry with one another gratuitously, our eternal journey will be forever burdened. I was thinking you appreciated my company. I know I was enjoying yours. And I was yielding value from't. You have caused me some unfashionable angst. I look forward to your clarifications and an opportunity for me to make good by you. Haruna. TIger was close but Lucas GLover was too hungry. Even Lefty and Duval could not derail his pursuit. His mouth filled with chewing tobacco. How did Mali-Benin come out Bilal??? --- On Thu, 18/6/09, Haruna Darbo <[log in to unmask]> wrote: From: Haruna Darbo <[log in to unmask]> Subject: Re: Daily Hadith - Marital Discord Pleases Shaytaan Most To: [log in to unmask] Date: Thursday, 18 June, 2009, 4:34 PM Thanx Bilal for sharing. This is a real way to help guide marriages and keep families together. Much of the work for a healthy marriage could be done at the front end. That will sve a visit by Shaytaa and put him/her out of business for good for Allah sakes. Two idiots ought not get married to one another. Plus marriages ought never be arranged by anyone other than the two to be wedded. The best thing friends and family can do is to introduce the prospective grooms and facilitate their courting and then allow the two birds to get hitched as and when they desire. A pre-nuptual should be considered when either perceives trifle motivation for marriage. On the other hand, and for those who only desire procreation, marriage is illadvised for you. You can raise the children together and take care of each other without the contract of marriage. This part is for those humans who have attained a more mature station in life. And there is no hell or heaven. There is Amagideon though when we do not take care of our planet. No other planet can sustain human life as well as Earth ws able to and I'm not sure we will be welcome by dwellers of other planets. Taking care of our planet includes recognizing each other as equal residents and nurturing the weaker among us. It is that recognition/consideration matrix that encompasses marital relations. When you are married, each individual still20retains their human rights. The marriage does not re-define that. The miscellaneous aspects of a marriage such as how family income is earned, possessions and comforts yielded, and the education, health, discipline, and religion of the family, are to be negotiated with your fundamental humanrights in mind. It is preferable for the two spouses to come from similar cultural and religious background but it is not a necessity. This commonality only helps to expedite the negotiation process but does not substitute for it. DO not marry someone ONLY because they look beautiful or handsome. Do not marry someone  ONLY because they are financially well off. Do not marry someone ONLY because you share the same cultural and religious heritage. Do not marry somene ONLY because you share national origin with them. Do not marry anyone ONLY because you admire something they have. Marriage is to raise a family, with or without children. That means if you marry someone, and through no fault of your own or your partner, you cannot bear children, you must not terminate or annul the marriage. You can adopt orphans or for those of you whose religion accomodates it, you may add another marital partner but ONLY upon mutual agreement. SHort of this mutual agreement, adopting orphans is most advisable. It is highly advisable should you yield mutual consent, to add a widower who as lost her husband to death, acciden tal or sui cidal. It is ill-advised to marr y a widower CONVICTED of murdering their spouse (male or female). I have devised a whole code for marriage called Haruna's codes for marriage and I shall share them with anyone who desires, au gratis. I am not married yet myself. I desire to but with deligence and sobriety. I have children and have adopted orphans without requiring them transfer fatherhood to me. I think that is most aggregious. Allez. Haruna. Thanx again Bilal for sharing the Hadiths. They help my further discernment in matters of social accord. When you are able, and if there is any, could you share a Hadith or two about harnessing the environment to yield valuable product. Much obliged. MQJGDT. AL Mu'Umin.  -----Original Message----- From: Edi Jah <[log in to unmask]> To: [log in to unmask] Sent: Thu, Jun 18, 2009 7:55 am Subject: Fwd: Daily Hadith - Marital Discord Pleases Shaytaan Most Marital Discord Pleases Shaytaan Most The Messenger of Allah (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) said that Shaytaan sits on his throne daily and dispatches his agents to work among human beings. One of the agents returns and says that I made=2 0a certain person commit a sin, another says I got so and so involved in this offence. Upo n listening to all this, Shaytaan says that you have done nothing great. Eventually, one representative comes and says that I saw a husband and wife extremely devoted to each other. I sowed the seeds of enmity between them. On hearing this, Shaytaan becomes happy and embracing his agent says that you have indeed achieved something great. [Mishkat] The love between a husband and wife is the biggest blow to Shaytaan. From this it is apparent how meritorious this love is. The Islamic prescription for success in married life is based on taqwa, fear, love, and consciousness of Allah. Taqwa -- the basis for all aspects of Islamic life -- is especially relevant to the household. That is why Sura Nisa, which contains many commands regarding the rights and responsibilities of spouses, begins with repeated reminders of taqwa. To fight Shaytaan, one needs Allah's help and it comes with taqwa, i.e. living with the awareness that Allah is watching us and will hold us accountable for our actions. A direct and far reaching consequence of this awareness is that a fight for rights is replaced by a concern for respons ibilities. One's responsibilities are other's rights. A Muslim husband and wife will be concerned with discharging their duties toward each other. 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