Susie, In general, I just chalk it up to some people being "paralyzed from the neck UP." The items Janet and I included in our "Top Ten" we more likely respond to, like "Wheelchair bound," and "They're married?!" with humor. We try to respond with humor for two reasons: 1. If they don't "get it," it's less likely to cause an "incident," 2. If they DO get it, they're more likely to remember it and try to change their behavior. Kendall An unreasonable man (but my wife says that's redundant!) The reasonable man adapts himself to the world; the unreasonable one persists in trying to adapt the world to himself. Therefore, all progress depends on the unreasonable man. -George Bernard Shaw 1856-1950 -----Original Message----- From: Kathleen Salkin [mailto:[log in to unmask]] Sent: Sunday, April 23, 2006 8:15 PM To: [log in to unmask] Subject: Re: [C-PALSY] The stupid things people say I tend to avoid them. If it can't be helped and I have to interact with them, I play it cool and they normally get the message. This most often happens at work, and unfortunately there's a member of my department whom I've worked with for 18 years. She has treated me rudely in the past but fortunately we are on different work teams now and I don't have to listen to her put-downs on a daily basis any more. And it's become easier to deal with when I learned she's that way to everyone, not just me. Kat On 23 Apr 2006, at 22:47, [log in to unmask] wrote: Hi all, I'm just curious - how do you guys respond to the stupid things people say as brought up in recent posts. Rather than asking what specifically you say, I'm asking how you treat these people after they've shown their stupidity. Have any of you ever gone on to be friends with these people? The reason I ask - I usually give people a chance or two, but when they continue to be stupid, that's the end. However, if they are unusually stupid or rude, I pull away then and there. I'm wondering if I should re- think that and give everyone several chances. In my experience though, if someone is really stupid once, the chance of a relapse is high. What do you all think ?(and if this email isn't clear, just ask me what the heck I'm trying to say). Thanks Susie ----------------------- To change your mail settings or leave the C-PALSY list, go here: http://listserv.icors.org/SCRIPTS/WA-ICORS.EXE?SUBED1=c-palsy ----------------------- To change your mail settings or leave the C-PALSY list, go here: http://listserv.icors.org/SCRIPTS/WA-ICORS.EXE?SUBED1=c-palsy ----------------------- To change your mail settings or leave the C-PALSY list, go here: http://listserv.icors.org/SCRIPTS/WA-ICORS.EXE?SUBED1=c-palsy