I don't understand. I knew a young couple and I am sure there are many others as well who, one of whom, was married previously to a non catholic, and who availed themselves of the Pauline privilege. This Pauline privilege required the couple to live and abstain from sexual contact till the former marriage could be properly annulled. The couple really wanted to be married properly in the Catholic church so they did abstain for 6 months till they could have a proper marriage. I know you aren't Catholics but I don't understand if your faith is strong and if you want to do the rite thing by yourselves and God why you can't just abstain. I think many times we sell ourselves short when thinking of our capabilities and strength God helps us in accomplishing all things.. ----- Original Message ----- From: "Phil Scovell" <[log in to unmask]> To: <[log in to unmask]> Sent: Monday, July 18, 2005 11:16 PM Subject: Re: question, problem, and prayer request. > Jeremy, > > Some of this varies from state to state. In Colorado, for example, you > don't need to be a licensed nor ordained minister at all to perform a > wedding ceremony. I performed my son and daughter-in-law's wedding almost > three years ago in a big church with probably 150 people coming to the > wedding and I'm nobody. I was ordained many years ago but that was in a > Baptist denomination I have been out of for over 25 years. Unfortunately, > it doesn't appear your pastor wants to work it out with you guys so we need > to come up with a plan B and that's not living together. Even if nothing > happened between you, you would find yourselves disappointed later that you > made that decision. Plus, it's no fun to keep hands off. Well, not at your > age anyhow. Well, not at any age. > > Phil.