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> Kathy,
>
> Sorry to hear you are feeling out of sorts. I know the new house has been a
> challenge with time lines, decisions, concerns of transitioning from the
> trailer to the house and etc. I would like you to consider some things if
> you would? Firstly take yourself back months ago, when you first started
> looking into the possibility of a new house. How improbable it seemed. I
> remember your frustration of no hope in getting into a new house, or a
> house. Well? You are a very, very short time away from living out that
> dream. You have a son who, although you miss and are naturally concerned
> for, is stretching out his wings in Michigan gaining his bearings in life
> and will do just fine because he has got fighters and overcomers for
> parents as an example and a support system. He is making his way in life
> just as you had intended him to when you had him 18/19 years ago. You have
> more children at home that although have their own qualities and
> shortcomings as we all do, they come home every night, aren't walking the
> streets. You have a husband who'd lay down his life for yours, you have
> friends here and elsewhere that care for you and your family, not to
> mention the most important thing, a God who cares for you and will not let
> you ride a storm more powerful than you can handle. With guys, we tell
> someone off, or threaten them, with women you breakdown in tears. Not
> all but this is a generality. I know my wife, if breaks down in front of
> someone, will tend to feel like a fool, weak, and embarrassed. Believe me,
> us men? We don't think anything about it *smile*. So you don't have the
> exact color you thought you'd like in carpeting. You'd probably not like
> the one you wanted anyway after a while and the one you wind up with will
> be just the right one. The water heater? Well you now can feel good knowing
> that the people you sell the trailer to will not feel as though they were
> taken in on their purchase. Your home insurance? You'll get nearly all of
> it back when you cancel the policy and are in your new home. For every ill
> event, there can be found a positive thing, the only thing holding us back
> from finding it is our own desire to wallow in our sorrow or our standards
> of what we feel is a positive. I am not Mister Positive Personality, and
> know very well frustration and being in a rut of things coming against me,
> but sooner or later one has to find a different perspective. I know you
> will too. Hang in there. You are just about in your new place, and what a
> celebration you will feel when all is moved in and you put your hand on
> your hips, look around and smell the smell of new house, and smile with
> elation. Oh. And did I mention that there is a chance that you'll find a
> piece of trim loose, or perhaps something missed? Do not be disappointed.
> We have lived here two years and we find stuff here and there like a
> electrical outlet box Brenda just told me was never fastened. So big deal.
> Or perhaps the ceiling fan in our bedroom that didn't work and I had to by
> and install a new one? Who cares, it isn't worth it. So take it from your
> younger, much, much younger brother lol. Don't sweat it. Enjoy the journey,
> we spend a lifetime in one and to wait for our destiny to be happy and
> joyful is a constant state of want and missing out enjoying life as you go.
>
> Brad