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sister safia This is so true I told our sister jabou earlier of an old american diplomat ( white church going with all the nine yard line) who had a 'friend' who was also the mother of his second child.- daughter- unofficially. His older son grew up till recently thinking he was an only child until his unofficial sister showed up to claim her rights from his dad -the relationship with his dad went down hill and has been that way since. If he was honest up front his son said he would not have minded and he always wanted a sister when he was young anyway. well now both his "friend" and wife are gone to the other world waiting for his judgement day and he has literally in this world lost his only son and daughter ( I mean not in good speaking terms due to property and money palava) chei as george would say habib |
>From: [log in to unmask] >Reply-To: The Gambia and related-issues mailing list <[log in to unmask]> >To: [log in to unmask] >Subject: Re: question/Ya-i-Mama Fatou >Date: Sat, 28 Feb 2004 10:03:49 -0800 > >Very good point. It is so easy to from a Western perspective criticize polygamy, but can it not >also be said that things CAN BE better for a senior wife who has a co-wife in the household >sharing work and responsibilities, than having family resources leak to outside "girlfriends"? > > > >On Sat, 28 Feb 2004, Habib Ghanim wrote: > > > > > sister jabou > > > > polygamy is practiced by non muslims too- please take note > > > > I know many catholics in Nigeria who have more than one wife > > > > they marry one in the church and the others in the traditional way > > > > > > > > having said this many muslim men in the gambia who have one wife may have > > concubines which makes it polygamous > > > > No offense to any one - sometimes the truth hurts - > > > > in my opinion it happens in the USA unofficially for example > > > > many senators and congressmen have their wives in their home state and > > their girlfriends in Dc sometimes working for them as sectretaries or > > interns. > > > > > > > > polygamy can be official and unofficial - please note that too > > > > habib > > > > > > > > > > > > >From: Jabou Joh > > >Reply-To: The Gambia and related-issues mailing list > > >To: [log in to unmask] > > >Subject: Re: question/Ya-i-Mama Fatou > > >Date: Sat, 28 Feb 2004 12:44:39 EST > > > > > >You may very well be right about lower figures but as I > > mentioned, I was > > >really just venturing a wild guess. I was under the impression > > that not marrying > > >multiple wives is on the decline, but then I also find that people > > who have > > >had one wife all along are marrying second wives later in their > > years. > > >I wonder if there are actual statistics compiled by the Gambia > > government. It > > >would be interesting to have actual figures compiled by regions if > > they have > > >looked into such things. > > > > > >Jabou > > > > > >In a message dated 2/28/04 8:12:52 AM Central Standard Time, > > >[log in to unmask] writes: > > > > > > > > > > I think that number is pretty high considering that younger > > generation are > > > > doing away with Polygamy these days. I know of very few if any > > in their > > > > twenties and thirties that have co-wives. I dont know about > > the people living in > > > > the provinces but I dont think Polygamy is practiced much in > > the Greater > > > > Banjul area any more. I might be wrong... > > > > > > > > Ya-i-Mam Fatou > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > >From: Jabou Joh > > > > >Reply-To: The Gambia and related-issues mailing list > > > > >To: [log in to unmask] > > > > >Subject: Re: question > > > > >Date: Fri, 27 Feb 2004 16:05:09 EST > > > > > > > > > >Ylva, > > > > > > > > > >This is not any official statistic but my assesment would be > > at least 95% > > > > of > > > > >all the islamic marriages are polygamous. > > > > > > > > > >Jabou > > > > > > > > > >In a message dated 2/27/04 1:44:13 PM Central Standard Time, > > > > >[log in to unmask] writes: > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Greetings, > > > > > > > > > > > > Would anyone happen to know what percentage of marriages in > > The Gambia > > > > are > > > > > > polygamous? Best, Ylva > > > > > > > > > > > >~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ > > >To Search in the Gambia-L archives, go to: > > http://maelstrom.stjohns.edu/CGI/wa.exe?S1=gambia-l > > >To contact the List Management, please send an e-mail to: > > >[log in to unmask] > > > > > >To unsubscribe/subscribe or view archives of postings, go to the > > Gambia-L Web interface > > >at: http://maelstrom.stjohns.edu/archives/gambia-l.html > > > > > >~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ > > > > > > >________________________________________________________________________________ > > Watch high-quality video with fast playback at MSN Video. Free! > > ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ To Search >in > > the Gambia-L archives, go to: > > http://maelstrom.stjohns.edu/CGI/wa.exe?S1=gambia-l To contact the List > > Management, please send an e-mail to: > > [log in to unmask] To unsubscribe/subscribe or view > > archives of postings, go to the Gambia-L Web interface at: > > http://maelstrom.stjohns.edu/archives/gambia-l.html > > ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ > > > >~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ >To Search in the Gambia-L archives, go to: http://maelstrom.stjohns.edu/CGI/wa.exe?S1=gambia-l >To contact the List Management, please send an e-mail to: >[log in to unmask] > >To unsubscribe/subscribe or view archives of postings, go to the Gambia-L Web interface >at: http://maelstrom.stjohns.edu/archives/gambia-l.html > >~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~