E.J., I am so with you. I think I might just have slapped her upside the head though. Kuddos to you on your self control! We have a right to stand up for our babies!!!!!!!!! -------Original Message------- From: Milk/Casein/Lactose-Free List Date: Thursday, October 31, 2002 09:56:27 AM To: [log in to unmask] Subject: School parties My son's school is great about making parties and activities safe for my son The kids are even great about it. Its the other parents that seem to take it as some kind of severe restriction of 'their' life. How do you deal with these parents? A Mom this morning told me that her pediatrician said that you couldn't have a reaction from just touching milk products. OK, I got a bit snippy back and told her that her Dr obviously hadn't kept up with recent medical information and she perhaps should look for someone else to provide her children's medical care. Bad me. Of course the conversation went down hill from there. I should have handled it better. She repeatedly told me that if it was her child she would home school instead of risking her child's life. This is my son's sixth year in that school and he has never had a reaction at school. I told her that repeatedly and that the staff at the school was great. That the restrictions in place for him were prescribed by his Dr and not just what I wanted or the school. That we had moved to this school district because of their willingness to accommodate kids with food allergies. Then she tells me that it is really a problem for her family when the teachers insist that the kids have either fruit or vegetables at snack time. Something to do with celi ac disease. I don't know much about that, but I though the problem with celiac was wheat. (I don't remember having a snack time when I was in school.) I tried to explain to her that many of the teachers choose to do that regardless of allergy problems in the classroom. I told her she could have that changed for her kids with a simple note from her Dr. She said no she wouldn't 'do that', like it was somehow shameful. Her whole attitude was belittling and I just wanted to smack her upside the head. I didn't of course. I am not ashamed of my son's allergy or mine. She acted like medical needs were shameful. Like I should hide my child at home or something. OK, I am venting. Sorry. By the way, this wasn't even a parent from my sons classroom. I was helping out in my non allergic daughter's classroom when this Mom brought up the subject of how ridiculous it was that so many of the classes in the school had peanut or milk restrictions. E.J. --------------------------------------------- Introducing NetZero Long Distance 1st month Free! Sign up today at: www.netzerolongdistance.com