YOU should be proud. Those are terrific accomplishments! Joanne ----- Original Message ----- From: Paige Petersen <[log in to unmask]> To: <[log in to unmask]> Sent: Tuesday, April 24, 2001 4:06 PM Subject: Re: living w/ my family > Joanne, > > You are oh so right. I have learned that over the course of my life- that > they have nothing of "theirs" to be proud of....... so they claim what their > children do/did. It's also ironic... I am a middle child, I am the ONLY one > to go to any college of any sort, earn a career, buy my OWN house (on my > OWN), ... That is all ME and MY accomplishments! :-) > > Thanks Joanne > Paige > > > >From: joanne <[log in to unmask]> > >Reply-To: joanne <[log in to unmask]> > >To: [log in to unmask] > >Subject: Re: living w/ my family > >Date: Tue, 24 Apr 2001 13:24:57 -0400 > > > >Dear Paige, > > > >Going to give you one more thought for the road and then I promise I'll go > >sit in the corner and be quiet, ok. People/parents who need to take credit > >for their children's/others accomplishments do so because they don't have > >their own accomplishments to feel proud of. The issue isn't really you but > >their self esteem issues. As far as I know your dad may be filthy rich as > >his claim to fame. It has not however brought him happiness nor contentment > >(you know what they say money can't buy you love health or happiness). Your > >accomplishments are you're own and even your dad can't take that away from > >you. It's the sense of worth that comes from deep inside that brings > >contentment. Its the sense of worth that no-one on the outside can > >influence > >because it is the true you. > >Joanne > >----- Original Message ----- > >From: Paige Petersen <[log in to unmask]> > >To: <[log in to unmask]> > >Sent: Tuesday, April 24, 2001 12:27 PM > >Subject: Re: living w/ my family > > > > > > > Another point... after I COMPLETED a masters degree in Education... my > > > father acted like he was the one who had achieved this. When I did > > > accomplish good things, he always took the credit for it- cuz he paid > >for > > > it... money is/was THE LOVE of his life! > > > > > > > > > >From: Rayna Lamb <[log in to unmask]> > > > >Reply-To: "St. John's University Cerebral Palsy List" > > > ><[log in to unmask]> > > > >To: [log in to unmask] > > > >Subject: Re: living w/ my family > > > >Date: Wed, 25 Apr 2001 00:21:39 +0800 > > > > > > > >Mike, > > > > > > > >You read my mind, I was just thinking that today. I know that in my > > > >family the men were the centre of the universe, and everything > > > >revolved around them. But even though my family had me convinced from > > > >an early age that I was inferior and worthless because of the CP and > > > >because I was - sorry am - intelligent (I know, it's bizzare, but > > > >they seriously thought having a good mind was a character flaw - I got > > > >told I was a `know it all", and they used to walk out of the room > > > >whenever I started talking about things I was interested in, by the > > > >time I got up and followed them I would forget what I was saying), > > > >they never managed to convince me that I am inferior because I'm > > > >female. The idea of it just gives me the giggles! BTW I no longer > > > >think I'm inferior because of the disability. > > > > > > > >Rayna > > > > > > > >On Tue, Apr 24, 2001 at 10:48:27AM -0400, Michael H. Collis wrote: > > > > After reading what you all had to go through with your families > >Jenn > > > >and Rayna, it > > > > really makes me wonder what would have happened had you been born > >the > > > >opposite sex? > > > > Typically, there's lower value placed on females than males in > > > >patriochal > > > > societuies, and when the female is disabled, there's even less of > >a > > > >value. I am > > > > truly sorry, Sisters, about your families... I wish your families > > > >were as > > > > supportive as mine have been. > > > > > > _________________________________________________________________ > > > Get your FREE download of MSN Explorer at http://explorer.msn.com > > > > > _________________________________________________________________ > Get your FREE download of MSN Explorer at http://explorer.msn.com >