In a message dated 10/30/00 4:48:54 PM Eastern Standard Time, [log in to unmask] writes: << Unfortunately, that possibility won't pan out until April, so I'm hunke= red down for the winter. So I'm also wanting some advice on how to deal wi= th some mild to moderate (most days) probably non clinical, life change, th= ings are different than you hoped or dreamed, you lived with parents who ca= red for your every need until the day after your 23rd birthday and you're n= ow supposed to know how to deal with everything yourself and have it togeth= er but you don't, unprepared for adult life, or at least feel that way, sem= i disconnected from familial support structure because they're enjoying the= ir newfound space and feeling out yours, but also still feel the need to ad= vise on image, etc., not to mention bored most times out of your brain for = lack of job or other "useful" use of your time, insomnia producing at times= , lonely, empty ache depression. Wry grin. (not to mention the fact that e= veryone around you near your age is happily coupled and/or newlywed, and yo= ur arms are empty.) I'm in the exact same position except that I have high functioning autism instead of CP. For finding things to do, I suggest learning HTML, which you can use to get a job later on. I'm a computer technician and i'm self taught by books and stuff. You can join chat rooms and read and stuff. I was in a nursing home for a few months when I broke alot of bones in a fire that burned down my house. Most of what I did was spend alot of time on the internet. Find out if there is a center of Independent living in your area and ask what services they can provide to help you learn to live more independently. Anso you can contact your local UCP and Easter Seals for other agencies. ALso you can find out what little there is to do whereever you live . So the first question i= s, do you know anyone that I can connect with to network from Portland, Ore= gon? I want to find out about other options in case this one falls through= , as well as fun things to do there, arts, dance, etc. You can go to Http://dogpile.com and type in Portland Oregon and it will search abouti 12 diffirent search engines and the search down so you can find more stuff about the city. lonely, empty ache depression. Wry grin. (not to mention the fact that e= veryone around you near your age is happily coupled and/or newlywed, and yo= ur arms are empty.) I know what it's like too. I have had girlfriends online. one of whom i've also met in real life but alas, I too am currently alon and making friends is hard for me much less finding a girlfriend. . It's all beauti= ful and/or skinny people How do you know that you arent beautiful? HEre are some links. 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