Oh on the contrary Vince! It is my feeling that this list is the perfic place to talk about these thoughts. The whole issue of dating and AB females, disabled females or whatever, is something that's close to all of us here I think. So by all means, please continue!! Gary, Thank you, this is the point I was trying to make about the entire list being mentors to each other. It should be a forum for discussing ANY issue that affects our lives..past or present. Thought provoking comments stimulate numerous responses which we can all draw upon & apply to our own situation. It also makes for interesting reading. Karen