Laura and others, I fear I have gotten misunderstood here. The reason why I tend to favor someone with a disability is this: I figure that a mate with a disability can be more understanding or helpful. By this I mean if a young abled bodied lady were to start a relationship with me she would have start at ground zero. Where as a person in a wheelchair for instance knows at least to some extent what to expect. You are right that even a breakup between disabled people can lead and most likely will lead to a heartbreak. I do not doubt that. As for what I'm looking for in a relationship: Someone who I can help and share the triumphs with and someone who can help get through the bad times with. I don't expect to meet someone tomorrow and get married next week. Someone I can get to know as a friend and then who knows. I am not trying to send a double standard I could careless if the person was "abled" or "disabled" but as I stated on top I think a disabled women as in my case would possibly have a better understanding of the situations. But if I were to get an opportunity to date a "abled bodied" woman I would certainly NOT turn her down. I just feel I need some experience in dating. I'm tired of this sheltered life. If I fall on my nose well I'll get up with new insight the next time. I hope I have not added more fuel to fire, Jan