Whoa there Jan! What makes you think an able bodied person would be any less committed to a relationship than someone with a disability? Anyone out there can break your heart--with or without a disability. I dont think having a disability gives anyone more "staying power" than those without. I would look at a heck of alot more at the heart and mind of a person, than based on disabled or not. I think alot of time people think of what they can get out of a realtionship, rather than "how can I serve this person?" We live in a culture where the norm is trying to get "what is theirs". Or, "I've got to take care of me before I can be of any good to someone else." I think that is a big part of our country's high divorce rate (over half of marriages end in divorce). Just something you might want to consider when choosing a person to date, and in thinking of your own motivations for wanting a relationship. Stepping off of my soapbox now. Humbly, Laura ----- Original Message ----- From: "Jan Nottmeier" <[log in to unmask]> To: <[log in to unmask]> Sent: Sunday, August 20, 2000 3:26 PM Subject: Re: on the subject of dating > Mike: Yeah you make perfect sense. I took Cultural Anthropology last > quarter at college. So I know all about hunter-gatherer societies and > other tribes. Its funny how you can use Cultural Anthropology on a > cerebral palsy support group list :) > > I guess I was just hoping for the females to see me for who I am. Not > judge me against a standard. But I guess that was a bit to optimistic. > I guess my uncle six months ago said it best. He said "find you someone > with a disability. Someone who knows how hard it is to find a mate. > Because if you find an abled bodied mate, which you may she may leave > you after a few months and you will be crushed. At least with a > disabled person you have a better chance." > > Who knows if the sun and moon get a lined I may have a chance to make it > with the 27 year old chick with polio. But regardless I will keep > trying. > > Thanks for the input Mike, > > Jan >