> > What I'm trying to say is that the problem isn't the List Server, > its because most people use a M$ program to receive mail which > appears to have been designed by a rather large committee who > didn't ask users what they wanted, just how pretty can we make it > look!! Sorry, can't help. Oh boy, that was beyond my understanding. However, other lists such as Our-Kids which is moderated by Randy Ryan have the reply to (private post) and reply to all ( public post) option and is another list on the St John's/Maelstorm group, as is C-palsy This made me I think it was up to the list owners to decide on whether to use these options. I know when I joined another list called Preemie Child it was set up just like C-Palsy until the list owner made the changes about a year after I joined. I assumed that the same could be done for c-palsy as other list owners managed to change the settings. Like I said before, just a suggestion to try to prevent any more embarrasing moments.But if you say it can't be done I'll have to take your word for it. Joanne Joanne