I'm thoroughly confused. Do you mean the agency wants a mother of a former
attendant to work with you? If that's the case, keep in mind that the mother
may be more mature than her daughter and may be able to help you better. If
Joy said they're two different people and you might want to give the mother a
chance, I agree. Who knows, she may work out for you.
I hate to say this, but you all are making me so glad I can live on my own and
only need a housecleaner to help me out. It must be terribly difficult
having to worry about how you're going to function throughout the day with
the help of undependable or difficult people. I don't know how you do it,
honestly I don't. From what I've heard, NC doesn't make it easy for disabled
adults to live at home with round-the-clock assistants.
On Wednesday 03 August 2005 6:46 pm, Kathy Jo Pink wrote:
> Hi Everyone,
> Sorry, Joy, I don't know what to tell you, but, I have someattendant
> woes of my own right now. All my attendants are leaving. (I have an
> agency that hires, pays, and fires all of my attendants for me.)
> Yesterday I e-mailed thesupervisor of all my attendants and asks what
> was going on in my case. She counseled me she has a mom of a previous
> attendant of mine. This attendant I fired because she refused to give
> me drinks when I asked. I e-mailed the supervisor back today and said
> I really have STRONG feelings about Diane Hanke if she is Heather's
> Mom. I know I haven't met Diane Hanke and I know you said that they are
> two different people. But... I suppose I could meet Diane (without
> signing any papers) and see how that goes. If that goes okay, I will
> try her only once a week to start out with. . .
> Joy Welan wrote:
> >Hi everyone,
> >Even though my situation is different than Kathy Jo's, the recent
> >discussion has reminded me what a great resource for information this
> >list can be. Just as a reminder, I have spastic diplegia CP that
> >almost exclusively affects my legs, and use a power wheelchair for
> >mobility. I just finished up my undergrad degree, and am about to
> >start law school. I live in Washington, DC.
> >My needs are very minimal (a little over an hour a day of assistance),
> >but what I do need is critical. It breaks down to about half an hour
> >in the morning for transferring and dressing, about fifteen minutes in
> >the afternoon for some other personal care tasks or household chores,
> >and about half an hour at night for undressing, showering, and
> >Until this point, I have been successful at finding assistants through
> >school and community newspapers. My parents take care of my needs
> >when I'm home for weekends or vacations. I've lived in my own
> >apartment throughout college, and planned to do the same in law
> >school. However, I still haven't been able to hire anyone for the
> >fall semester, and I'm getting nervous. I don't want to live at home,
> >since I feel like that would be a huge step backward in terms of
> >independence, and would also be really inconvenient in terms of
> >commuting. Also, as my parents get older, I'm realizing that I need a
> >better solution.
> >Does anyone have ideas about ways that I may be able to find
> >assistants? I've never worked with agencies or government
> >organizations before, but I'm not too proud to start if necessary. I
> >just don't know where to begin.
> >Thanks for your help!