My heart goes out to you and your daughter. I know that I will be facing
the same issue with my son in the future. All I can say is that I will pray
for your situation and that God will help her through this and hopefully
some hearts will be touched in some way. Best of luck and God bless you.
----- Original Message -----
From: Shawn Carolan-Abell <[log in to unmask]>
To: <[log in to unmask]>
Sent: Wednesday, March 01, 2000 5:00 PM
Subject: Childhood and frienships
> This is not a political post but very personal. I will accept email
> privately if you wish to do so.
> My daughter is ten in the fourth grade and the social issues are getting
> really hard. Kids will play on the playground and socialize at school but
> not outside of it. I have in the past made sure she had girlfriends over,
> playdays on the weekends. She is getting older and it's almost not my
> place anymore to be making these arrangements. I've noticed that kids
> don't take the time to listen to her finish speaking and it's hard for
> understand what she says. I see them run away and go play and that she
> not catch up and is left behind. She drives an electric scooter at school
> and uses a handheld or a walker. I've seen how sophisticated they are all
> getting around her. Some are not returning phone calls either. I think
> are headed into unknown territory. What else is new. My thoughts now are
> should I keep her active in her own interests or really try to push the
> friends with the NDA kids even more. We live in a beautiful small town,
> great school and out in the country where arrangements have to be made.
> They all seem to be in soccer ect on the weekends. In the summer I try to
> have her see her other friend who has cp who lives far away and be around
> more kids with disablities.
> My daughter is creative and poetic and one of the bravest, strongest
> I have ever met. She loves art and animals and so far, I think has a good
> sense of self esteem. Teenagers always appreciate her great sense of humor
> and she is so savy and can size people up within an eye blink. She also
> so imaginative and spends time in fantasy. Soo any words of wisdom? I
> can't believe the other mothers of NDA kids who are so oblivious but it's
> not their fault and thats another subject. So I turn to all of you who
> know more than I do about friendships when you have a disablity. It
> my heart to think she may be lonely and I dont' know what to do about it.
> Or if there is anything I can do. I don't ask for help that often but I
> am now.
> thanks ahead,