Well, to answer to some questions, I'd say that I'd aware of the fact that
my action (of missing twice) triggered my analyst's reaction. Nevertheless
her reaction was not a fair one ... it would have been perfectly fair if I
would have been warned about the consequences that such an action from my
part could have had.
    I don't see how my vulnerability has anything to do with this, unless
the analyst's reaction can be seen as part of the therapy.
    Anyway, I posted this message in order to find out how other analysts
see such a problem.

Best ragards,
CIP