<<But a man - or woman - worth having as a friend
and partner should be able to appreciate your body too, and to have that
particular appreciation understood for its own value. It's no good daring
people to like you>>

I'm sorry, our society is too focused on this and too much importance is
given to it.  I've spent my life with almost every man I've ever met wanting
to jump into bed with me because I am endowed with good genes that have
given me a body they like and still like at 44 years old.  I've been tired
for years now, of having my value and likeability defined by my body.
People are surprised and confused when I don't take it as a compliment when
they notice me for my body.  It's an insult that they focus on this.   I
have a friend who does not attract men for this reason; she is heavy.
Instead, she ends up with the most interesting, loving men as partners, and
enjoys deep, fulfilling relationships with them.  And, interestingly, none
of them have been overweight.

Siobhan