><<But a man - or woman - worth having as a friend
>and partner should be able to appreciate your body too, and to have that
>particular appreciation understood for its own value. It's no good daring
>people to like you>>
>
>I'm sorry, our society is too focused on this and too much importance is
>given to it.  I've spent my life with almost every man I've ever met wanting
>to jump into bed with me because I am endowed with good genes that have
>given me a body they like and still like at 44 years old.  I've been tired
>for years now, of having my value and likeability defined by my body.
>People are surprised and confused when I don't take it as a compliment when
>they notice me for my body.  It's an insult that they focus on this.   I
>have a friend who does not attract men for this reason; she is heavy.
>Instead, she ends up with the most interesting, loving men as partners, and
>enjoys deep, fulfilling relationships with them.  And, interestingly, none
>of them have been overweight.
>
>Siobhan

So here we are, eating Paleolithically, trying to find what is natural, and
yet getting upset over the undeniable biological fact that men are
hardwired to seek sex. They (you) can't help it!!! And it's up to each of
us to deal with that natural instinct as we choose. Believe me, I get a
little, or a lot, tired of dealing with what sometimes seems like mens'
burden, but I'll never, ever blame them for finding it natural to think of
me or anyone else sexually - in addition, mind you, to any other thoughts
of appreciation. Too much importance is given to it in our society ONLY if
it bothers you; otherwise, the importance of mens' sex drives is just about
what it's designed to be. And if you think you find it a nuisance, imagine
how the poor guys feel. My body is my playground, and at 52, mind you, I am
free to indulge that pleasure or not. The fact that men want me may
sometimes interfere a bit with other concerns, but if they didn't want me,
it would be hard indeed to find a worthy playmate on the occasions when I
wanted one. This may or may not be related to the fact that I worked very
hard for the body and health I currently enjoy, and that even when I had a
weight problem and the concomitant low self-esteem, plenty of men were
still beating on my door. They just can't help it; don't hold it against
them.

ginny

All stunts performed without a net!