Firstly, I do not feel threatened by Mboge.  I know we've disagreed in
the past, and I personally think he's been and continues to be rude and
insulting to me because of those past disagreements, and he also has a
penchant for insulting others he doesn't agree with, in the guise of
"defending himself" I guess.  I found his private email to me to be at
most a nuissance, but not threatening.  If he is being censored because
of anything he may have said to me, then let me be the first to say
that I don't think he should be censored for that reason alone.  I
don't feel victimized and I don't think his comment about "snuffing the
life out of " people who bully and harass him was or is directed to me.

I find it interesting, though, that for someone who considers me to be
someone not worth his time, that he'd first of all take the time to
write me privately, and secondly, continue to discuss the issue
publicly online.  I don't mind disagreements, I have disagreements with
people all of the time, but what I don't like is when disagreements
degenerate into taunts, insults, etc., and further when said
disagreements turn into grudges, whereby it becomes impossible to have
any kind of a  discussion with someone about any topic because they
will forever hold a past disagreement over your head inperpetuity.

If I disagree with you on one thing, it may be that I may agree with
you on another thing, so I'm not going to hold any kind of disagreement
with you against you, to the point that I can't discuss anything else
with you.  And to me that shows maturity and cool-headedness.  If I do
have a strong disagreement with someone where it gets heated, I try to
make amends afterwords, and make sure we are on good terms, and to make
sure that the person I've disagreed with knows that I don't dislike
them as a person, I just didn't agree with them on something.

That's how I work.  I don't hold grudges, I don't hold people's past
arguments with me over their heads.  And I'm just saying that if people
choose to do that with me, these are not people that I'd like to have
any kind of a discussion with.  I don't have anything against anyone on
this list, in fact, I'm sure that many are perfectly nice and sensible
people in real life, but for many, including myself sometimes, we get
behind a computer screen and forget that the person we are talking to
is a real person with thoughts, feelings, etc.  And we say things to
them we'd never probably even have the gutts to say to their faces in
real life.  And I'd be happy to give out my number if Mboge or anyone
else wants to call me and say to me, to my face/over the phone, the
same sorts of insulting things they say here online, because my guess
is that they won't take me up on that challenge.  Why?  Because it's
easy to insult people from the comfort of your keyboard.  It's much
harder to insult someone to their face.

But anyway, I do not feel victimized or bullied, just wanted to amke
that clear again.  And I think that Mboge and Haruna are perfectly good
people, but they unfortunately got carried away, in thier attempt to be
macho or something, I don't know (smile*.

Ginny

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