this message will be very short. most of us here will hardly think of marrying a 
second wife but many of our brothers in the Gambia are practically taking two 
and three wives without thinking deeply about the consiquencies of having 
two human being as your partner.

the responsibility to have two ground up individuals entrusted to you by 
themselfs and there parents is very enormous. brothers easily take the cheap 
option of sighting islam allowabilty of the neccisity to marry up to four wives 
but do this brothers take a good look at the quranic verses allowing this very 
delicate matter ? if they do , the very common mistreatment of the first wife 
will never happen or it will be very minimal . yes islam permit men who believe 
they can afford to have more than one wife to marry two ,three or four . but 
the underlying message is marry only one if you fear that you cannot act 
justly between the wives. why that underlying injuction ? simple ,Allah those 
not borden any one with whatever he/she cannot bear . the issue of falling 
foul of the trust is the key issue , men will be ok with the first wive untill they 
encounter another option ,then they will act if the first wive is not alive.
the reason we say men can do it is religion yet what lies after betraying 
Allah's trust we don't want to think about that . the punishment for 
mistreating one's wive is very grave let alone surpassing your wives ahead of 
each other in the open .
i am only reminding myself and brothers to be careful before getting into 
tempting situations with the many pretty faces in our offices and streets in 
banjul to serrekunda only to make a promise that you are not prepared for.
our first wife's most of the time stood by us in difficult times and in good times 
so lets remember what we all went through . many may say what am i on 
about ? but i will say islam is about reminding each other as brothers and 
sisters. if we abandon reminding one another then the satan will be our 
advicers .
i am not in theory against men marrying a second wife but think about the 
responsibilities ahead and the demands you will have to fulfill. many think first 
about pleasure side of things but if one handle the situation wrongly that 
pleasure turns more bitter than talo .

finally we will be held accountable for our trust or amana .whatever we are 
entrusted with be it 
wife ,children ,property ,authority ,opinion ,health ,beauty ,fame ,husband ,etc
 we will be accountable for it all . no amount of redicule or education will 
prevent us from meeting our maker .many are doing just that dayly .it is 
estimated that every three second two people died and three are born . who's 
turn will be next we don't know. may God guide us.

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