Sister Fatou,

Mine here is not from a traditional or islamic perspective. It is just
a heresay humor I meant to share.

One wife, one problem. Two wives, two problems. So on and so forth,
since you have to cater for all.

You should introduce Jongamana.nin.com to all the forums to boost your
contributors.

thanks always and best of regards,
yj







On Thu, Aug 28, 2008 at 4:04 PM, F.Dibba <[log in to unmask]> wrote:
> Please Excuse my Virgin mind,? But Since i am continuously educating myself in Religion, i would like to hear your thoughts on this..? With all this talk about polygamy and how it is a great for Men. i am wondering, what do women gain out of Polygamy? Because, to be honest,
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> ?Personally i see no benefit in polygamy as part of my life....
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> ?Even with four wives men are still cheating... then they divorce one woman to make way for another..How is this right?..And where is the LOVE? .
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> And about asking permission from your wife, Is this actually a reality?? it really does not seem that this rule is being applied,.
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> . And if she says No.. What then? Do you not marry the 2nd wife anyway.. or do you divorce the wife that said No?? i do not get it.
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> Is it really that hard for a man to be with just one woman? Like Adama & Hawa.. And if a man feels that they nolonger love their wife , or she is not satisfying thier needs, or for whatever reason, they are attracted to another woman, can they not discuss with her and perhaps get divorced?
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> ?I think keeping a woman there out of "KOLAREH" for old times sake( could not find the right word in english for this) is more insulting than actually divorcing her,, since there is no love, you? just keep her because she is a mother to you kids etc.. i guess her period to be loved has ended.. and now she has to be content and wait for death, whilst the man rejuvenates himself with a new love
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> I think in this world that we live in now. Polygamy, especially in Gambia, has caused many problems, Women fighting. families breaking up, kids confused.
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> And l The Marabouts!!!!!? The so called Juju men that a lot of,? women visit to keep their men, and destroy each other, or to get cheating husbands to marry them.. The stuff that women put in men's food.. Seriously , unhiegienic and as teenagers like to say.. Gross!!!
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> ?And you know what is funny, if you have four wives, be assured that all these women are putting weird things in your food, because they all want to be number 1..
> Heck.. even the one wife, goes to marabouts just to keep her husband from straying away from her..
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> ?Now whether these Crazy JuJu things work or not i do not know.. but i have heard of things like menstrauration blood, pee, spit etc being mixed in mens food..those aint even that bad..
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> And? men live longer with multiple wives?... I DO NOT THINK SO....
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>  So Anyway reading Surat An Nissa..
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> "And if you apprehend that you will not be able to do justice to
> orphan girls, then marry such other women as seem good to you, two,
> three, four, but if you are afraid that you will not be able to keep
> two wives on equal terms, then marry one only or captives whom you own.
> This is nearer to keeping you away from doing injustice." SURAT AN NISSA
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> Okay so Allah revealed Surat aAn Nissa after the battle of UHUD, Right?
> hence the orphaned girls referred to in that chapter.. meaning the
> wives of men that died in battle. this was a way to help the War Widows, by marrying them and providing for them. the times called for it, This is what i understand from reading this verse..
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> ?Equal terms... well that is nearly impossible.. can you love them equally?
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> My question is, What is your translation of this verse? Does it mean
> polygamy is a right for all men or a responsibility to women who have
> lost their husbands in battle and need help?
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> Like i said, i still have a virgin mind.. This is not meant to start a fight with any polygamous men, or religious fanatics.. i just want to understand and better Educate myself
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> Ngen Balal Ma Aha
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