Phil, you are so right, those people aren't real friends at all.
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From: "Phil Scovell" <[log in to unmask]>
To: <[log in to unmask]>
Sent: Sunday, July 17, 2005 8:17 PM
Subject: Are They Really Friends


In recent years, I have lost a number of people I considered close friends.
A man I considered to be my best friend has not had contact with me for at
least two years and perhaps longer.  Others were school friends who suddenly
passed away, or who slowly passed away, but I never heard about it until
they were gone.  My roommate in school growing up, for example, died an
alcoholic.  For years I called him on his birthday just to catch up on
things.  Once and awhile, I called him more often because he meant so much
to me.  I got to thinking one year, as his birthday approached, that he
never ever called me for anything.  I wondered, therefore, how much I meant
to him so I stopped calling.  Three or four years passed and then I heard of
his death.  The pastor I mentioned in my earlier post last talked with me in
August of 1992.  He was never a man for writing and he rarely called.  If I
told you some of the things I did for this pastor, you would probably find
them hard to believe.  For example, one day, many years ago, during the late
eighties, the Lord told me to call him and talk to him about his finances.
I did and discovered he was three months behind on his mortgage and about
ready to lose his home.  He had not told anyone.  I hung up that day and
called a man I knew in the church and explained the situation.  The man was
horrified that his own pastor was that bad off financially and never once
told anybody in the church.  They not only caught up his payments, but
filled his house with groceries and gave him a raise at the church.  Yet, as
I said, the only time I heard from him in five years or more was when he
drove to Denver to meet with several friends to try and get them to sign up
with his multi level business he was in part time.  Was that a friendship
which worked both ways?  For the passed two or three years at least, I have
begun evaluating what a friendship really is.  If it isn't both ways, that
is, mutual, I now questions the reality of such a friendship.

Phil.


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