Hi guys,
	Well, I'm headed to Portland today for a honey moon with my 
sweety.  It's nine hours and counting.  I can't 
wait.  Unfortunately,  The situation is a bit concerning because Matt 
had a small car accident last night and we're kind of leaving him to 
have to work things out.  I have little clue what to do and Greg has 
to give directions by phone so this will definitely be a maturing 
experience for Matt, to say the least.  Matt is fine.  The car 
appears to have sustained only front end damage.  Who knows what this 
will do to our car insurance.  Greg has called a member of the 
congregation to go with Matt to look at the car and decide what to do 
from there.  Right now, it is in the parking lot where Matt 
works.  He feels aweful, but like I told him, I'm just glad he's 
okay.  He's irreplaceable.
	What I'm really praising God for is how well both Greg and I stayed 
calm through the whole thing and got our priorities correct in 
putting our son's life above the car.  I think that, earlier, we 
would have been a little more judgmental, but having gone through 
what we have been through with Chris has really helped us to see more 
clearly what is important and what is unimportant.
	By the way, I had a nice long talk with Chris again this week.  He 
is really itching to get together with us, but I had to put him off 
because of scheduling and so forth.  This was good because he sees 
very clearly that we are treating him as an adult and not just 
clinging to him and connecting with him on his terms.  He did go down 
and take is pre-test for  preparing for his G.E.D. studies.  He's 
wishing that he could get out of his relationship with Nicki, but he 
is afraid that she will kill herself if he breaks it off.  He is 
feeling resigned to his fate of having to marry her because they've 
had sex, and I was able to talk with him about God's forgiveness and 
Grace and how God is the God of second chances.  I talked about him 
taking the time to find himself and do some deep soul searching and 
he was kind of shocked.  He asked me if I had been talking to his 
last therapist.  I assured him that I had not, but he was amazed 
that, without collusion, we had both been saying the same things.  He 
seems to be really thinking now.  I think that he is regreting some 
of his choices.  He said that if it hadn't been for Nicki, he'd 
probably still be home and in school and driving and more on 
track.  This helped confirm for me, however, a decision that Greg and 
I had already made that we will probably not let him come home, even 
if he asks.  At a distance, Chris treats us with respect, and we do 
better at keeping our opinions to ourselves.  It is very hard not to 
slip back into the parent child relationship when an adult child 
moves back home for a season.  We've seen that in our relationship 
with Matt.  Old patterns are very hard to break.  While I'll miss 
Matt, I'm glad that he's moving back to Michigan this June.  It is 
good for both boys to continue to strive for independence and adulthood.
	Well guys, I'm off for a wonderful weekend.  Please just pray for 
safety for all of us.
God's peace to you all!
Kathy