I agree with you that the adult parents come after everyone else.
However, my mom has raised 1 nephew from this same brother of mine before
this girl child and in doing this, she did a good thing for the child but
she has used these children as a wedge between she and her husband.
She does not take proper care of her marriage and in the case of this girl,
my brother is capable of parenting her at this point in his life, and my mom
is likely not to be able to care for the girl into adulthood.
My mom is just hanging on to her because she knows no other behavior.
She has taken this girl and moved into a totally different house as it is
closer to her place of work.
Her husband visits and sometimes stays the night but mainly he lives in
another town at a lake cabin where he and my mom started out at.
That is another story in it's self, it is not fit to live in really and he
should give and move to the other house which is in better repair but he is
80 or so and the cabin is on the lake, which is important to him as he is a
fisherman and it is home to him.
He neglects his marriage by not providing a house in better repair but, if
my mom wasn't hanging on to this child, the lines of communication might be
clearer for them to work on this, which is actually a problem of there own.
Sorry if this is rushed.
Waiting on Terri and a friend to get back from town so that we can go
somewhere and eat and I just threw our tortilla soup dinner in the crock
pot.
Kind of wanted to get in here and back out.



Matt

Marriage is a covenant, not a contractual relationship.
In a contractual relationship we demand our rights and limit our
responsibilities.
Where as, in a covenant relationship, we limit our rights and assume
responsibilities.