Vinny,
Not only would he hate us if we buried our heads in the sand, but I don't
know if we could ever forgive ourselves for such wanton neglect of his
soul.  What keeps me going is the knowledge that I am answerable to God for
my part in all this as well.  Yes, Chris has free will, and his
consequences are his own to deal with before God, but I am his parent and
thus I have a roll as well.  I am answerable for my part.  Dobson was right
when he said that "parenting isn't for cowards."  Brother!
Kathy

At 09:52 PM 7/15/2005, you wrote:
>Kathy,
>it's only his old nature that hates you.  He would really ultimately hate
>you if you burried your heads in the sand too.
>Vinny
>----- Original Message -----
>From: "Kathy Du Bois" <[log in to unmask]>
>To: <[log in to unmask]>
>Sent: Friday, July 15, 2005 1:52 PM
>Subject: Re: The light truly is best!!!
>
>
> > Karen,
> > He did say last night that he is grateful to have parents who will go to
> > such lengths for him.  One other thing that we talked about last night is
> > one of his friends who is a real druggy and we both know that the mother
>in
> > that situation has chosen  to bury her head in the sand.  Chris will often
> > make comments out of the blue about how, we're doing it the right way,
>even
> > though he still fights us tooth and nail.  I'm pretty sure that, even
> > though he hates the consequences, he's pretty  glad that he has such
>tough,
> > nosy parents.
> > Kathy
> >
> >
> > At 11:46 AM 7/15/2005, you wrote:
> > >All right Prasie the Lord.  Of course you know he is always in
> > >control.  And God maybe showing Chris that he truly is loved.  Sometimes
> > >kids act up because they think they are not loved.  Just keep reminding
> > >him that you do these things because you know he is better than how he
> > >acts and that you are doing it because you love him and he may not
> > >understand it nhow but in later years he will look back and be thankful
> > >that it was this way.,
> > >
> > >--
> > >Christ is either Lord of all or he is not Lord at all.
> > >Karen Carter '74
> > >
> > >
> > >
> > > > Hi guys,
> > > > Thank you so much for praying.  What a wild day I have had.  This
>morning,
> > > > Greg talked to Nicki's mother and told her about the scheduled
>appointment
> > > > at planned parenthood.  Well, at first we thought that we weren't
>going to
> > > > be found out because Nicki's mother covered for us and said that
>planned
> > > > parenthood had called to remind her of her appointment.  We were
>praising
> > > > God that we were still going to escape detection.  Then, this
>afternoon,
> > > > before dinner, we don't know why, but Chris burst into our bedroom,
>where
> > > > Greg was working on the lap top and just asked outright, how long have
>you
> > > > guys been listening to our phone conversations?"  Well, we tried to
>talk a
> > > > bit thehn, but Chris was very angry, understandably, so we just
>dropped it
> > > > and went to dinner.  I had a feeling that I had better stay home from
>bible
> > > > study to face whatever storm was brewing.  Sure enough, I caught Chris
> > > > snooping around in our bedrom.  I calmly sat down on the bed and Chris
> > > > said, "what do you think I want to talk about Mom?"  So, I laid back
>and
> > > > just told him to go for it.  He shut the door and sat down beside me
>on the
> > > > bed and started asking questions about how much we knew and so on and
>so
> > > > forth.  I explained to him that we started monitering him when he
>started
> > > > sneaking around and hanging around people that we didn't know.  I was
>also
> > > > able to talk to him about birth controll and going back to his
>original
> > > > policy on abstaining from sex until marriage and, over all, it went
>pretty
> > > > well.  We ended on a good note.  Unfortunately, we just had another
>tiff in
> > > > the kitchen because he is grounded for the day and he still wants to
>go to
> > > > Nicki's so life isn't good, or perfect or, whatever, but I feel like
>God
> > > > gained another victory today in this crazy battle.  You guys needed to
>know
> > > > because your prayers really helped.  Now I have to run because my five
> > > > minute turn on the computer is over. GRIN!   Besides, it's getting
>wild
> > > > around here again, but, there was a victory today.  Yea!
> > > > Kathy
> > > > .
> >